Should we accept this honeymoon gift?

posted 3 years ago in Honeymoons
  • poll: Accept the two weeks in the Bahamas?
    Yes : (109 votes)
    96 %
    No : (2 votes)
    2 %
    Not sure... : (2 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Hell to the Yes!

    Post # 4
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    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I would! You said they have to pay for it anyway, and they can’t go! So I would definitely graciously accept it!

    Post # 5
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    65 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    They want to feel like they give you something nice even though they do not have alot of money. Plus, they are going to be paying for the timeshare if you go or not. So why not go. You could always take another trip on your anniversary of later in the year. Taking the trip to the Bahamas would also save you money.

    Post # 6
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    3222 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I would accept. It is a very generous gift, and will probably make them feel better if they can’t afford anything else. The timeshare would go to waste otherwise.

    If you want to honeymoon elsewhere, use the money you saved for that to go on another trip.

    Post # 7
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    332 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2014 - Sea Ranch Lodge

    Can you afford to do a dream honeymoon on the island you want? If so, I’m sure they would understand and be able to sublet their timeshare to someone else.

    However, if you don’t mind their place and that island, it sounds awesome! I don’t think they would offer it to you if they didn’t want you to accept?

    Post # 9
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    778 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Yes, it’s a BIG gift–but at the same time, they’re paying for it whether they use it or not, and they’re not going to use it. I guarantee you they’d rather see you and your fiance have an amazing honeymoon than let the timeshare sit empty. So…if you want to go, accept the gift!  

    That said, if you had your heart set on a different destination–then tell them that you appreciate their incredibly generous offer, but that you and your fiance have been saving up for a dream honeymoon in __[insert destination here]___. I’m sure your FSIL will understand. 

    It’s really great that they’re so supportive of you and your fiance’s marriage that they would offer something like that! Clearly, they love and support you both and that’s an amazing gift in itself.

    BTW…my fiance and I have been to the Bahamas twice (though I mainly have spent time in Nassau and Paradise Island), and are going back in December. It’s GORGEOUS there. You’ll LOVE it. 

     

    Post # 10
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    65 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @wabanzi:  Sometimes you have to put your pride to the side and let family help you. That is what I am trying to learn to do also.

    Post # 11
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    2657 posts
    Sugar bee

    I would take it for sure!  They’re not going to use it and I think it’s a great solution for your honeymoon.  Even if their finances are tight, they are still on the hook for paying for the timeshare and have already budgeted for it.  You guys are going to have a wonderful honeymoon no matter where you go, and I’d accept their offer 🙂

    Post # 14
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    8905 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    DURRRRR!  They’re not going to use it, they want it to get used, and they want YOU to use it!  You should graciously accept this perfect gift!

    Post # 15
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    1951 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @wabanzi:  I would, to be honest, but my reasoning is this: you’re not paying for a hotel, or flights, so seriously splurge on other things. Go out to eat at the best places, go on a ton of excursions, pamper yourself at a spa, etc. With all the money you’ve saved by accepting this gift, you can make your honemyoon unique and amazing by going big in the other areas. Plus, your in-laws will be happy they were able to contribute. 

    Post # 16
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    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I believe that gifts should be accepted graciously. However, it will put you in their debt in a major way and I don’t like that feeling. Personally, I wouldn’t accept it. I would tell them that a lot could change between now and next year and perhaps they will be able to afford to go afterall. Nope, too complicated.

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