Post # 1
My FSIL (also my MOH) and husband want to give us 2 weeks in the Bahamas (Freeport) at their timeshare. It is a one bedroom suite on/near the beach. They won’t be using it next year and it is something they have to pay for whether or not they use it. This would be their gift to us (pretty awesome gift) and I know they are struggling a bit financially right now. I specifically told them not to get us anything, that taking time off work and traveling for the wedding/taking part in it was more than enough. I told them this a few times.
So, do we accept their very generous offer?
This would basically be a free honeymoon as we have enough air miles now for 2 plane tickets (we’ve been saving up tons of air miles to pay for our honeymoon). FI and have been all over the Caribbean. We love it. However, we would not have picked the Bahamas for our honeymoon. It is a fine island, but we like others better and there are still several we haven’t been to.
Part of me thinks this is way too much of a gift, but then I think this allows them not to spend more money on us. I think I am just a bit overwhelmed.
Post # 4
I would! You said they have to pay for it anyway, and they can’t go! So I would definitely graciously accept it!
Post # 5
They want to feel like they give you something nice even though they do not have alot of money. Plus, they are going to be paying for the timeshare if you go or not. So why not go. You could always take another trip on your anniversary of later in the year. Taking the trip to the Bahamas would also save you money.
Post # 6
I would accept. It is a very generous gift, and will probably make them feel better if they can’t afford anything else. The timeshare would go to waste otherwise.
If you want to honeymoon elsewhere, use the money you saved for that to go on another trip.
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2014 - Sea Ranch Lodge
Can you afford to do a dream honeymoon on the island you want? If so, I’m sure they would understand and be able to sublet their timeshare to someone else.
However, if you don’t mind their place and that island, it sounds awesome! I don’t think they would offer it to you if they didn’t want you to accept?
Post # 8
@servin89: & @BrandNewBride: That’s what I keep telling myself. I feel really uncomfortable. I’ve never been given (or even thought I would be given) a gift like this. My FSIL, and FI family are all very kind, fun, loving and generous. I’m just so used to doing everything myself.
Thanks for the input.
@MrsTillerResq: You made me laugh.
Post # 9
Yes, it’s a BIG gift–but at the same time, they’re paying for it whether they use it or not, and they’re not going to use it. I guarantee you they’d rather see you and your fiance have an amazing honeymoon than let the timeshare sit empty. So…if you want to go, accept the gift!
That said, if you had your heart set on a different destination–then tell them that you appreciate their incredibly generous offer, but that you and your fiance have been saving up for a dream honeymoon in __[insert destination here]___. I’m sure your FSIL will understand.
It’s really great that they’re so supportive of you and your fiance’s marriage that they would offer something like that! Clearly, they love and support you both and that’s an amazing gift in itself.
BTW…my fiance and I have been to the Bahamas twice (though I mainly have spent time in Nassau and Paradise Island), and are going back in December. It’s GORGEOUS there. You’ll LOVE it.
Post # 10
@wabanzi: Sometimes you have to put your pride to the side and let family help you. That is what I am trying to learn to do also.
Post # 11
I would take it for sure! They’re not going to use it and I think it’s a great solution for your honeymoon. Even if their finances are tight, they are still on the hook for paying for the timeshare and have already budgeted for it. You guys are going to have a wonderful honeymoon no matter where you go, and I’d accept their offer 🙂
Post # 12
@CelticBeachBride: Thank you. I have been to their place before and it is nice. FI are divers/snorkelers which is why we usually go to other islands. But I know on our honeymoon I’ll just want to lay on the beach and sigh (in between naps and x-rated shenanigins). Free is free and two weeks is awesome.
I figured it was just me out of my comfort zone. I must learn to be gracious acceptor.
Post # 13
@servin89: Well said. Thank you.
Post # 14
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
DURRRRR! They’re not going to use it, they want it to get used, and they want YOU to use it! You should graciously accept this perfect gift!
Post # 15
@wabanzi: I would, to be honest, but my reasoning is this: you’re not paying for a hotel, or flights, so seriously splurge on other things. Go out to eat at the best places, go on a ton of excursions, pamper yourself at a spa, etc. With all the money you’ve saved by accepting this gift, you can make your honemyoon unique and amazing by going big in the other areas. Plus, your in-laws will be happy they were able to contribute.
Post # 16
I believe that gifts should be accepted graciously. However, it will put you in their debt in a major way and I don’t like that feeling. Personally, I wouldn’t accept it. I would tell them that a lot could change between now and next year and perhaps they will be able to afford to go afterall. Nope, too complicated.