Should we be doing everything the same?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should we have asked both the guys and ladies with a little gift?
    Yes, everything should be equal. : (0 votes)
    No, it's fine to ask in different ways. : (32 votes)
    53 %
    Relax and stop overthinking things : (28 votes)
    47 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    4540 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Royalton White Sands

    I don’t really think it’s necessary to do both the same. Guys generally aren’t into little trinkets and things of that nature anyway. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    7216 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @PinkStripes:  Of course it’s ok. It’s not as if the guys are going to get together with the girls and compare notes.

    Post # 5
    Member
    351 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Don’t overthink. And don’t blow the budget early on. You’re at the beginning stages… trust me! My wedding is in 12 days, from this vantage point I can say that the less you overthink, the happier you’ll be.

    Also, if your wedding is in 2015, you might want to hold off and ask them in 2014. Their lives and priorities and the states they live in might be completely different in a year and a half. Trust me!

    In the last year and a half, we’ve lost two people who I would’ve SWORN would be in our wedding party (if you asked me in 2011). One went crazy and pissed off. And one moved to Italy with her military husband and can’t come back for the wedding. Frown

    Post # 6
    Member
    1373 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Men do things differently in real life too, it would almost be silly to expect them to do wedding related stuff the same as we do… 

    Post # 8
    Member
    686 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @PinkStripes:  To reply to multiple people you can also copy the link with their name at the beginning of their post and paste it in this box 🙂

    Also i 2nd not asking too early – wait and see how people treat you during your engagement first.

    Post # 10
    Member
    2851 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I got cute cards for my BM’s and my FI pretty much said “hey you wana be a groomsman, ok cool man”.

    Men don’t appriciate those things like us ladies do.

    Post # 11
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    8426 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I made custom gift boxes, jewelry and poems for my girls.  My husband just asked his brother over the phone lol.  I don’t think guys care.

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