Post # 1
Twice this year, FI and I have been invited to weddings – twice, one of us has been referred to “and Guest” on the envelope.
His invite was from a distant cousin, but he’s on his FB and knows we are engaged and could very easily look up my name. My invite was from someone I consider a close friend, and she has met him and definitely knows his name.
When we’ve received these invites, we felt slighted on the other’s behalf… Am I wrong or overthinking this? This had better change when we get married! (Sorry, I am PMSing…lol)
Post # 3
You’re overthinking it. I think a lot of people use “and guest” even if they know names.
Post # 5
Idk if I would be insulted. I def. would be thinking the close friend was a bit of a lazy bum for not putting his name on there too. As for your FI’s relative… I wasn’t going to check FB for every single guests SO. If I didn’t remember their name, I would put “and guest.”
Post # 6
@mrs_pudding_pop: i think you’re over thinking it. Some people don’t put names of spouses down until they are married. Maybe they think you might want to bring someone else (who I have no idea). I would let this roll off you.
Post # 8
Some people are just lazy and don’t feel like lookng it up. Not an excuse, but I wouldn’t be offended.
Post # 9
@littlemisst08: This is mostly how we feel – the close friend really could have put his name on, especially knowing she is having a small wedding!
Post # 10
@mrs_pudding_pop: You’re overthinking it. I would use guest as well. It’s easier and there is enough to do without looking up names, especially of folks I’m not especially close with. Unless someone is actually married, I am not writing both names.
Post # 11
Why do you have to ask? Either you are or you aren’t. I personally wouldn’t be insulted.
Post # 12
@MrsWBS: +1, I will take the lazy label, lol. I’m happy to write “guest” unless a couple is married and call it my standard 😛
Post # 13
I dont think its a big deal. Assuming people will check everyone’s SO’s names in Facebook is a bit presumptuous. Not everyone sees offence in writing “and guest”.
Post # 14
I wouldn’t be insulted, but it’s not according to proper etiquette.
Stay calm – long into our engagement, I received an invitation to a barbecue from one of my husband’s uncles. It was seriously addressed, “To Mr. CookieCreamCakes and Fiance.” I laughed my butt off. He sees the entire family regularly, including my husband’s parents, and he never thought to ask my name? That one took the cake. We still laugh about it.
Post # 15
@CookieCreamCakes: Oh no! lol
I figured we were overthinking a little but just wondered more if this was a standard. Thanks guys. 🙂
Post # 16
I think you’re overthinking it. I am sure no one is trying to snub you.