Should We Be Insulted?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2355 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

You’re overthinking it. I think a lot of people use “and guest” even if they know names.

Post # 5
3777 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Idk if I would be insulted. I def. would be thinking the close friend was a bit of a lazy bum for not putting his name on there too. As for your FI’s relative… I wasn’t going to check FB for every single guests SO. If I didn’t remember their name, I would put “and guest.”

Post # 6
686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@mrs_pudding_pop:  i think you’re over thinking it. Some people don’t put names of spouses down until they are married. Maybe they think you might want to bring someone else (who I have no idea). I would let this roll off you. 

Post # 8
11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Some people are just lazy and don’t feel like lookng it up. Not an excuse, but I wouldn’t be offended.

Post # 10
9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@mrs_pudding_pop:  You’re overthinking it. I would use guest as well. It’s easier and there is enough to do without looking up names, especially of folks I’m not especially close with. Unless someone is actually married, I am not writing both names.

Post # 11
6455 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Why do you have to ask? Either you are or you aren’t. I personally wouldn’t be insulted.

Post # 12
9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@MrsWBS:  +1, I will take the lazy label, lol. I’m happy to write “guest” unless a couple is married and call it my standard 😛

Post # 13
2222 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@honie309:  +1 

I dont think its a big deal. Assuming people will check everyone’s SO’s names in Facebook is a bit presumptuous. Not everyone sees offence in writing “and guest”.

Post # 14
1734 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

I wouldn’t be insulted, but it’s not according to proper etiquette.

Stay calm – long into our engagement, I received an invitation to a barbecue from one of my husband’s uncles. It was seriously addressed, “To Mr. CookieCreamCakes and Fiance.” I laughed my butt off. He sees the entire family regularly, including my husband’s parents, and he never thought to ask my name? That one took the cake. We still laugh about it.


Post # 16
2695 posts
Sugar bee

I think you’re overthinking it. I am sure no one is trying to snub you.

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