Post # 1
My Fiance and I have been trying to figure out what to do regarding registries. We feel kind of stuck between a rock and a hard place. We don’t have a place of our own and will be living with my family until we can afford a downpayment on a house (which may be a long while), so we don’t want or need any kind of home items because we don’t have room to store them and won’t have opportunity to use them for a long time. But on the other hand, we don’t want to outright ask for money, either — and we know our families wouldn’t really approve of either a home-fund registry or a honeymoon registry. But if we don’t register anywhere, I’m worried we’re going to get a bunch of random items that we can’t store or use — that already happened at Christmas when some family members gave us appliances that are just stuffed back in a corner of the attic until some unknown date when we have a place of our own.
I’ve signed up for an Amazon registry and put a number of relationship/healthy marriage books on it, along with a family Bible, but we really have noooooo idea what else to put on it!
Are there some other options that we’re just not thinking of?
Post # 3
I see your dilemma. You may then decide to change your style of reception and make it a pot luck dinner. That way you will have hardly any costs. You could send out home spun invitations that clearly state just what you said…..
Dear Family and Friends: Bill and I are so excited and want to share our good news with you! We are getting married on June 1, 2011 and we would love to have you join us to witness our vows. Following the ceremony we will host a pot luck dinner in the abc hall and we would love to have you join us and dance the night away.
After we are married, we will be living with mama and papa. We request only your presence. No gifts please.
Dress: Country western
If you are so inclined you can make it a Square Dance or Barn Dance. Because you want a Bible, I assume you have a local church. I am sure they would be happy to let you use the church hall and yard.
Or you could host a chili contest at the wedding insgtead of pot luck and ask people to bring their favorite chili and you will have judges….You can have people also make pies and have a pie contest too, instead of wedding cake. You supply the corn bread, beverages, table cloths. I bet the church has plenty of tables and chairs so you won’t have to rent them.
You could do a country fair theme with blue ribbons for the best pie and chili. You could use jars for glasses of lemonaide and ice tea. You could have red and white check table cloths. You could set up carnival type games [toss the clothes pin in a bottle]. I bet if you ask people, they have stuffed animals hanging around they don’t want. Everyone has a beany baby or two that they want to find a new home for. Collect those and use those as prizes. No one ever plays with them so they don’t get grimmy and there is always a little tag on them so they appear new.
If people are bringing food, that will be their gift.
What do you think? Of course you will have to make it clear where the ceremony and reception are, and the times.
Post # 4
How did I not see this til just now? Anyway… just wanted to say a huge thank you for your reply! I love the whole idea 😀 Thanks!
Post # 5
You are welcome! Please let us know what you end up doing. You can also work with the wording using ‘presents’ and ‘presence’. I.E. No presents please. We only request your presence!
I’m so excited for you and think you’re on the right path! Keep in touch. I wish I lived in NC! I’d love to come and help out. Best wishes….
Post # 6
Hmmmmm, Fiance and I don’t have a home yet either.. we’ve started buying and storing for our future home though, which is in about 6-8 months for us. The difference is that I have a giant storage space under my bed where we keep it all.
Whats most important for you guys right now is to save,.. are you sure that your family would disapprove of a home fund? I can understand your apprehension about a honeymoon fund, but what if you worded a card nicely saying “As we are currently saving for a home; if you wish to give presents beyond your presence, please contribute to our home fund” ?? (That might be lame, I don’t know)
Sorry, thats the best I can think of!
Post # 7
I had the same issue as we recently moved in with my father who has been having health issues. We already lived together for 2 years so we don’t need much and don’t have room for much anyways. We decided to do a honeymoon fund, though I know you said that’s not an option for you. Try to think of things that you would love to have but would never buy for yourself, those would be good things to put on your registry.