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Oh my gosh, I would say NO! All of that stuff is your gift and a very generous gift at that. I would never expect another thing from you. What a great Aunt you are!
I would say no. I would just make sure to bring a card with a note expressing best wishes, etc.
I definately wouldn't expect anything else from you after all of that. Of course, I would probably giver her and her FH a card, with a nice note saying that you wish them the best and that their day was all they hoped for.
Nope! You are making a LOT of food for them and food supplies are NOT cheap! A nice card would be plenty!
Wow you're already doing a lot for your neice! Thats's very nice of you...most family (even parents) don't do that much! I would say just get her a nice card and your congrats!!
I think what you are making for them is an incredible gift and your niece is very lucky to have you. A card would totally cover it from here. 100% completely.
I agree, a note will be sufficient. As you are doing the cake, maybe you could help freeze a slice or tier for their anniversary. There's no need to purchase any gift in addition to what you've done.
I would give them a card and maybe let them know before hand that you intend it to be their gift. Maybe ask about her preferences and say "I'm working on your gift... what kind of pie is your FIs favorite."
I defintely do NOT think that after all that you've done you would be expected to provide a gift...but I like the card idea that sjbee has!
If you can't afford a gift on top of everything you've already done, don't feel obligated to do so! A nice card would be a good gesture, though.
No! I wouldn't give her one, especially if you're making the wedding cake. Wedding cakes are labor intensive... I actually won't make wedding cakes for friends unless they'll pay me for it. I charge less than I would a customer, but I'd much rather buy them something off their registry lol.
I think you have done a lot already & a nice card will be the cherry on top :)
Whether you give a gift or not (I would still get something very small off the registry, but I agree that you don't really have to with all of the work you're already doing for your niece), definitely give a card.
As the bride, I would not expect a gift from a person who had contributed so much to my wedding. If there is something special you would like to get her, then go ahead. but if you feel like you are already spending a lot of money on this wedding, I am SURE she would assume that the cake and the shower are her gifts.
However, please, please, please, please make sure to get her a card. We had a quite a few people who did not get us gifts for our wedding. I didn't mind one bit, but was a little hurt by some close people who didn't even give us a card. One person had thrown an engagement party for us about 6 months prior to the wedding... so perhaps she felt that was her gift. I know she spent a LOT of money on it, so I didn't mind a bit, but would have loved a card from her with her sincere congratulations.
It sounds like you don't have the funds or really want to give her a gift and that your services (which are amazing and commendable!!) will serve as the 'gift' in your eyes.
As a bride, I am not expecting a gift from anyone - and I would certainly not expect a gift from someone who poured so much time, effort and money into the wedding as you have.
I think boils down to a personal comfort and monetary ability. If you want to get her a gift, do so (in whatever amount you wish). If you feel like you can't or don't want to because of the money you've already spent, then of course, don't.
It's hard to know how people will react to things. If your niece thinks you are well off, she could be expecting a gift (I think gift disappointment is based on people's expectations and assessment of financial status.) That said, do what feels right to you - there's no wrong way to go about it. If all you can do is a card, then do that. I'm sure your niece will realize all you've done to help her with her wedding.
I sometime go through this when I'm a bridesmaid - I am out the cost of dress, shoes, alterations, hair, usually help throw a shower, buy a shower present, have bachelorette party expenses, and have always bought a wedding present equivalent to what I would get the couple if I were just a guest. That said, you know your niece best and know if she'd be offended if you didn't get her anything.
i say no gift because your time & skill is gift enough but i would suggest a card... hopefully the bride will know your wonderful contribution is gift enough
After everything that you are doing, no gift is necessary. A card would be great.
You are so generous already! Don't worry about a gift, but I recommend a card!
My other suggestions is writing up one of your pie/dessert recipes for the couple as a gift. I LOVE getting recipes and it will be a nice keepsake for them. That is, if you are willing to share one of your award winning recipes!
If I were your niece, I would probably offer to reimburse your expenses. Just to be fair... If there is no such arrangements made (your niece didn't mention anything about reimbursement whatsoever), I would say gift is not necessary. She should be more than thankful that you're being so generous.
Just a note to let her know you are happy for her and her FI and enjoyed? helping her prepare for entering a life together and blah blah blah and maybe a small token or something about dinner in the future or just the card.
I wouldn't expect a gift if I were the bride, but if I were you, I would still get her a small registry gift in the $30 range. I like getting the couple something that they really want, and will use for years to come. It doesn't have to be expensive ... most couples register for things in all price ranges.
If you're going completely broke, though, don't push yourself financially. No one is ever obligated to bring a gift to a wedding. But where I'm from (NY) I was always raised that no matter how much you help out, it's still nice to bring a little something to the wedding (or send it in advanced if it's a destination wedding).
I'll also just add that my Aunt did all our centerpieces for us. Granted, they weren't flowers (branches and candles), so they weren't horribly expensive, but she did pay for them and assemble them, and she also has to travel to our wedding and foot the bill for her travel expenses, and she got us a very generous gift. While it was completely unexpected, it was most certainly appreciated.
I think what you are providing is such a generous gift. I would definitely get her a card and express to her that what your doing is a gift from you.
My aunt actually did my huge dessert table and I was extremely grateful. On top of that though she gave me a monetary gift which wasn't necessary at all. I expected the DT to be enough. Truly thankful though!
Oooh, I love the idea of giving them the recipe in the card you give them (GaBGal's idea). How special would that be to get the recipe for your own wedding cake!?! If I had my recipe, I would make it on our anniversaries!
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I am helping my niece with a few parts of her wedding. They asked me to make a dessert table for them (I've won a couple of local pie contests). I'm making their 3-tiered wedding cake (a very simple design), a pie and a cheesecake for their wedding. I'm also hosting her bridal shower because her BMs and MOH don't have a lot of money; and I'm providing the food/drinks for it too. Her wedding is in Chicago because that is where they met in school (we are all from Michigan) so we also have the expense of driving/lodging. Do we also get her a gift? If so, how much do we spend? If not, I never said everything was in lieu of a gift. Not sure what to do - feel like I'm going broke.