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Trust your instincts. I would cancel, since you have obviously thought this out, you'll be in great shape! Spend whatever fee it is to cancel the check from the bank, it will be worth it in the long run.
I would stop the check and contact the venue to let them know that you are canceling due to lack of service. You don't want to work with a client who isn't even organized enough to cash your check!!
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I definitely think I would put a stop payment and cancel the contract. I had the same sense of uneasiness about our photographer, but I decided to continue with him anyway, assuming things would clear up.. it never did. If I had a way out, I would get out.. so my recommendation is since you have a way out - get out! Our intuitions give us those feelings for a reason. You have plenty of time to find a new venue. Best of luck!
My suggestion to you: speak to the venue manager if it someone other than the coordinator. If it is then see if there is an alternate coordinator (if you LOVE the venue). If you don't mind changing the venue, I would do it now. Stop payment on the check, and write a letter informing the venue why you have changed your mind. Be sure to cite the incidents above, because the management won't know he's a problem if you don't tell them. Make sure to send a copy to both the coordinator and his boss.
He should be more professional, and those incidents are not acceptable. Hopefully other brides won't have to deal with him!!
I would def look elsewhere!! Too much stress especially at the start of the planning! 
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Definitely stop payment on the check and find another place. Even if they do manage to pull it together for your wedding day, because of what's already happened this will be a constant source of stress for you, and you don't need that. Find another place where they are a little less snarky (or at least more funny) and go with them.
Cancel. Things with this guy will get even worse when you are trying to plan wedding details with him.
Thanks, bees! 
I appreciate all the input.
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I agree with everyone.... DEFINATELY CANCEL and look for another venue. One of the most important things I've learned from the bees are to trust your gut. Several have blogged about a bad experience with a photographer, venue, or other wedding venue that they had a bad feeling about and either regretted not doing anything about it or were REALLY glad they went and booked someone else instead. The venue is a huge part of your wedding day if you are not feeling good about it RUN AWAY!! :) I'm glad you have time to keep looking... all the more reason to drop this venue and book another one. GOOD LUCK!!
Good suggestion, MightySapphire. But yeah, if you're not comfortable, get out. Our instincts can tell us a lot about people and situations even if our brains aren't able to decipher exactly why we feel uneasy.
Go with your gut, girl. You'll find somewhere else perfect for you!
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Hello, hive! I'm currently in a sticky situation and don't know what to do. That's why I need some help from my fellow bees!
Basically, my fiance and I have put down a deposit ($750.00) for our reception venue. We sent the check to them a significant amount of time ago (almost a month) and they still haven't cashed it. I've had several problems with the wedding coordinator at this venue to date.
First, when we were negotiating the contract, he got a little snarky with me when I tried to change it. I'm a paralegal, and when he had found out I had changed a few of the items on the contract, he said to me, "oh...well you just had to go and get all paralegal on me, didnt' you?" I tried to laugh it off at the time, but it kind of offended me and definitely left a bad taste in my mouth.
Second, when I went with my mom and MOH to show them the venue, when talking with the coordinator I was 99% sure I smelled alcohol on his breath. At first I wasn't sure if it was a breath mint or mouthwash or something, but when talking to him later, I again caught a whiff of what was definitely alcohol.
Third, when I called to inquire about our deposit payment for the venue, the coordinator said to me (completely deadpan) "oh, yeah....your check bounced." No laughter, no joking in his voice. I knew it was completely impossible for the check to bounce, and at this point was in no mood for his jokes, so I said "That's not funny." He tried to backtrack and say "oh, no, I was just kidding...we have it here and we just have to cash it." Um... 1) not funny and 2) it's been almost a month!
I'm considering putting a stop payment on the check so that we can look for a venue elsewhere, one where the coordinator will treat us like clients/customers with some sort of professionalism. We would be putting down a significant chunk of money and I'm not comfortable with the road we're headed down with this guy.
So, hive...what are your thoughts? Just for background, if it helps: we're not getting married until June of 2010, so we would have time to look for an alternate venue.
Thanks so much for your help!