Post # 1
When we originally began planning our registries, my Fiance and I decided to create a Honeyfund for the purchase of our first home. We have so much junk in our tiny condo and I just want a house with a yard. Of course, I planned on also doing a traditional registry to give my guests options but I really just wanted money towards a down payment on a house.
Our original plan was for Fiance to finish his bachelors here in TN and then go on to obtain his DPT at a local college but, now, it turns out that he will probably end up going to an out of state school. Because we have no idea where we will be, home buying in the next 3-5 years is probably not going to happen for us.
I still would love a little nest egg but is that too long to wait on buying after we have asked our guests for money that will help us to do it? I just wonder if we shouldn’t cancel that registry and use monetary gifts as needed.
Post # 3
@MrsM914: I voted to cancel it but really because I think “give me money” registries/requests are just inappropriate.
Just make a small registry of household items or have no registries at all and people will likely give you cash without you having to hold out the tin cup.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I think that if you cancel it and keep your registry small, people will give you cash anyway. You can always have your family and friends spread the word that you prefer cash because you are trying to save for a future home purchase.
If you do decide to keep it, make sure that you note that this is for a down payment on a home after you Fiance finishes all of his degrees, so that people aren’t offended when they don’t see you buy a house after the wedding.
Post # 5
I would not even go to a wedding if I was asked explicitly for money. Buying your house is not my problem. I bought 6 on my own.
Post # 6
I said “cancel it” because requests for money are inappropriate.
Post # 7
I thought that a “Honeyfund” (the terminology makes me cringe) was cash towards a honeymoon?
Post # 8
Is this common where you are from?
If you answered a. then save the money for a future deposit
If you answered b. then you will get a reaming from all the Bee’s who love to talk about how bad it is. Hang your head in shame, you are a bad bad Bee.
Post # 11
Regardless of how I may feel about a Honeyfund registry, I think that its wrong to ask guest to give money for X and then not use it for that. Even though you may have the best of intentions with the money, its likely that money will get spent on other things (life happens!) if you don’t use it immediately on a down payment. I think the likelihood o fyou holding onto your Honeyfund money for 5 years and leaving it intact for a down payment are slim to none.
Post # 12
@Vikstar: That’s what I thought too.
Post # 13
@MrsM914: You’re getting the snarky “cancel it because its tacky” responses instead of “cancel it because in this situation it makes sense”
I say keep it going. put it in a savings account, and don’t touch it. Send out your post wedding thank you cards, and then, when you do buy that amazing first home, send out round two, with pictures. 🙂 Maybe include an invitation to a barbeque. 🙂
Post # 14
I have never been a fan of these or a fan of asking for money in general…….I know many do it but I have never liked it so my vote would have to be cancel it. You will still get money thou many people give money instead of buying off the registry!
Post # 15
Ps- sooooooo glad that, once again, I was educated on what is and isn’t proper as a human being.
Post # 16
I think asking for money to basically pad your savings account is a bit tacky, yes.