(Closed) Should we cancel the wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1408 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Dont let your mom, ruin your day. You will never get over it. It happened to me my mother wanted to impress her friends and completely ruined my day. It was her wedding not mine. If you can cancel i would. Or have an honest chat with your mom, if she doesnt back off shes not invited.


Post # 4
6745 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

ARE YOU MY SISTER?  bc I swear I have the same mom.

It sounds like she’s upset about losing her daughter.  Some moms don’t understand that they don’t lose a daughter, they gain a son.  Have you moved far from her?  She’s probably upset about that, too – and all the changes that come along with the wedding.

Not sure what her deal is and why she’s shitting on you, your wedding dresses, your wedding, etc.. You need to have a heart-to-heart with her and tell her that she needs to either accept it and only say nice things or not come to the wedding. 

Post # 5
4524 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@ILoveMyKorat:  the only thing that “stinks” here is your moms attitude. Do NOT cancel your wedding: you and your guests will have a blast and your mom can join in or sit in the corner and sulk.

Post # 6
748 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

You may have initially planned on having a wedding for your mother, but it sounds like you have put in some cash, time, and thought about how to have a great day with your guests. I say HAVE IT, and HAVE FUN. Also, have a very serious conversation to your mother about how you feel she is being overly critical. Let her know that you love her, but this is your wedding, and you want her to come support you, but you are tired of the comments.

I wouldn’t deprive some of your other guests or yourselves from having this day that you’ve planned because of your mother and a handful of cousins.

Post # 7
1299 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Did your mom get a wedding the way she wanted it when she was married?  Also who is paying for the wedding?  If you are paying and your mom had her day, my response would always always always be the same to her.   Either I would just smile and nod, coin a phrase like, “thanks for your suggestion, I’ll consider that.”  Or some other non emotional reponse.  But dont let her have her day, on your time to shine.  If you truly want to elope then do that too.  I just really think you should get to do what you and your Fiance want to do. Period.

What would happen if you just stop taking her to vendor meetings and stop sharing info with her?  I had to do this with a lot of people and learned to play it close to the vest in the early stages.   A lot of the wedding was a complete surprise to most everyone.  I planned everything on my own.  And I liked it that way. 

Post # 8
75 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

DONT CANCEL THE WEDDING, sounds to me like your mum will NEVER be happy with any of the decisions you make, why put yourself through the stress of cancelling everything based on one persons petty opinions. She’ll only behave exactly the same way if you cancel and come up with another plan. Its your day NOT your mums. Good luck.

Post # 10
6745 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@ILoveMyKorat:  Ugh, I’m sorry, I feel for you – I go through the same thing with BOTH my parents.  I have no advice how to address it except to say that I would just let her what she wants if she’s paying.  If she’s not, I would tell her to fork over the money for real flowers and meat sauce and whatnot. 

Also, I would LOVE alfredo sauce over meat sauce 🙂

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