Should we change our theme and colors? Ridiculous situation.

posted 2 years ago in Beehive
Post # 2
931 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I really wouldn’t worry about it.  You don’t even know that she is trying to upstage you, she could just be really excited and it was truly what worked (not that I would personally get engaged after 2 weeks)

However, keep in mind that any crossover guests will know you had your date and colors picked first, so I wouldn’t worry about it.  

Post # 3
1298 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

crisy003:  Sorry you are having to deal with this. My first thought is, if she’s only known her FI for two weeks, maybe they won’t even make it to the wedding? So I wouldn’t add any additional expenses to your own wedding to change it because she is planning on copying you.

Will there be many mutual friends attending both weddings? Do what will make you and your FI happy. If that means making a few changes to your original vision, then do that. Navy and gold sounds great! Definitely make your Pinterest board private, if you have one. And make sure you don’t tell any details to any mutual friends. 

Post # 4
2800 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m going to bet just because the time you spent planning your wedding vs. the time she is planning hers, yours is just going to be better.  I wouldn’t change anything that you spent money on already.  I would also take even odds on someone datting for 2 weeks making it down the aisle in 8 months. 

Post # 5
1029 posts
Bumble bee

I would stick with your original theme and just stop talking about your wedding details with anyone who could potentially leak them to her. Sorry you have to deal this–some girls never cease to amaze me. Just be flattered that your ideas are so great that people want to steal them 😉 As PP have stated, odds are she probably won’t even make it down the aisle. Good luck!

Post # 6
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I also wouldn’t worry about it. How many people are actually invited to both weddings?

Post # 7
3255 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Wow 2 weeks? my bet is there won’t end up being a wedding anyway so you won’t have to worry!

Post # 8
7936 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Even if two people are using the exact same theme/colors it’s going to look different. Stop telling her details but don’t worry about it. I would definitely use gold instead of orange though- orange with blue just reminds me of the Chicago Bears! 

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