Post # 1
A friend I had a falling out with recently decided she needed to marry a guy she met after dating for only two weeks. She chose her wedding date to be literally right before mine and chose to use the same color scheme and theme idea as us, she also decided to find a wedding gown with blue accents like I did. Needless to say, I thought that was a bit messed up and and decided to not talk to her anymore since she’s really pissed off me, my FI, my family, and my other bridesmaids with how she’s been trying to upstage/copy us. (She was supposed to be my MOH initially, so that’s why it’s been a touchy subject). When I tried to ask her once why she chose the date she did (along with why she’s marrying a guy after knowing him 2 weeks) her reasoning was that the saturday she picked (8 months away) will work best with everyone’s work schedules. I’m sorry, but who honestly knows theirs or anyone else’s work schedule 8 months in advance? I feel like she hasn’t been honest and that the whole situation is just ridiculous. I thought about attempting to communicate with her again, but then again I feel like maybe our friendship is best left ended.
I’m sort of ranting but I’m hurt that I ever had to deal with a friend trying to upstage me and steal my wedding ideas. My FI and I have put a lot of thought into making our day unique and special to us and my former friend has just been doing everything on a whim with little thought behind it. Do you guys think I should make a few changes to my wedding ideas and keep them a secret from now on? We were going to have an elegant wedding with a few rustic touches incorporated with navy and orange as our colors, but lately my FI and I are thinking to keep with Navy, but maybe use gold instead of orange and have a vintage feel with touches of Harry Potter. We’re big HP fans, we even named our cat Nimbus so it seems sort of fitting and fun… Any thoughts Bee’s?
Post # 2
I really wouldn’t worry about it. You don’t even know that she is trying to upstage you, she could just be really excited and it was truly what worked (not that I would personally get engaged after 2 weeks)
However, keep in mind that any crossover guests will know you had your date and colors picked first, so I wouldn’t worry about it.
Post # 3
crisy003: Sorry you are having to deal with this. My first thought is, if she’s only known her FI for two weeks, maybe they won’t even make it to the wedding? So I wouldn’t add any additional expenses to your own wedding to change it because she is planning on copying you.
Will there be many mutual friends attending both weddings? Do what will make you and your FI happy. If that means making a few changes to your original vision, then do that. Navy and gold sounds great! Definitely make your Pinterest board private, if you have one. And make sure you don’t tell any details to any mutual friends.
Post # 4
I’m going to bet just because the time you spent planning your wedding vs. the time she is planning hers, yours is just going to be better. I wouldn’t change anything that you spent money on already. I would also take even odds on someone datting for 2 weeks making it down the aisle in 8 months.
Post # 5
I would stick with your original theme and just stop talking about your wedding details with anyone who could potentially leak them to her. Sorry you have to deal this–some girls never cease to amaze me. Just be flattered that your ideas are so great that people want to steal them 😉 As PP have stated, odds are she probably won’t even make it down the aisle. Good luck!
Post # 6
I also wouldn’t worry about it. How many people are actually invited to both weddings?
Post # 7
Wow 2 weeks? my bet is there won’t end up being a wedding anyway so you won’t have to worry!
Post # 8
Even if two people are using the exact same theme/colors it’s going to look different. Stop telling her details but don’t worry about it. I would definitely use gold instead of orange though- orange with blue just reminds me of the Chicago Bears!