Post # 1
I am absolutely dreading the wedding we have planned. Our families don’t really get along. Neither of us is looking forward to having all of the attention on us. The only reason we’re having a wedding in the first place is because family members would be disappointed if we didn’t have one. Our parents bought our outfits already, but nothing else required a deposit, so it’s not like we would be out a lot of money, and I would pay our parents back for the outfits. I just don’t want to let people down, but I also don’t want to be miserable. I’m not sure what to do.
Post # 3
I am entirely bias because if there was anyway I could convince FI to elope I would do it in a hertbeat. IF you and yoru FI are on the same page, then I say YES! Do what makes you happy because that is what really matters on your wedding day.
Post # 4
This day is all about you and your soon to be husband. Based on what you’ve said I say ELOPE! Sounds like everything you want!
Post # 5
DO IT! I wanted to soooo bad. We contemplated it for MONTHS. I’m not sure why we didn’t… I’m not happy with the way our wedding turned out at all.
Post # 6
I agree with MissTatas, if you guys are both game for eloping then go for it! I’m kinda in the same boat except I’m the only one that feels that way lol so I’ll do it for FI just cause I love him that much, but if you guys are dreading it then elope and if people are still complaining that you didn’t have a wedding for them then at very best have a reception dinner when you get back from your elopement to avoid complaints that might ruin your hunnymoon stage!
Post # 7
Do what will make you both the happiest. If someone doesn’t they will get over it or if they don’t, then they weren’t worth the time of day anyway.
Having your wedding the way it will make you both the happiest will help you start out on a happy marriage.
Post # 8
I just posted something similar a few days ago. To echo what others have said, do what will make YOU happy. At the end of the day, your and your FI’s happiness is what matters the most. Good luck with your decision!
Post # 9
@CharmCityLady: Do it!! We did and totally loved it. We basically came to the same conclusion that if we had a wedding, it would be for our family. And that’s not what a marriage should be about. I think there were some hurt feelings at first, but everyone seems to be over it now, and we had the absolute best time together!
Post # 10
Ok, we decided to do it… now how do I go about telling everyone that the fancy wedding is off?
Post # 11
Talk to your parents first… let them give family the info..
do like my DH cousins did and just drop of the face of the earth for 3 days… lol
Post # 12
Ha, so that’s the hard part 🙂 Definitely tell your family first, and just put a positive, fun spin on the whole thing! After all, you’re doing what’s going to make YOU TWO happy!
Post # 13
If he’s down for it, go for it! I’m like MissTatas in that I wanted to elope, but FH has always wanted a wedding with his family and friends present.