(Closed) Should we elope or have a small wedding? Help!

posted 5 years ago in Elopement
  • poll: Elope or Intimate wedding?
    Elope : (31 votes)
    78 %
    Intimate wedding : (9 votes)
    23 %
  • Post # 3
    9142 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    @MrsLevell2Be:  It sounds like your family doesn’t support your “nontraditional” relationship. Getting married probably isn’t going to change their minds. Get married or elope because you and your partner want to and stop worrying about what your family thinks.

    Post # 4
    951 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’m going to say elope, but for financial reasons! I had originally planned to elope but chose to have a small wedding instead..well that blew up and now it’s a 60 person wedding costing somewhere in the neighborhood of $15-20k. Oops. Should’ve eloped!!

    Post # 8
    497 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    You can do a small intimate wedding with your loved ones.

    Post # 9
    951 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @MrsLevell2Be:  To make sure you don’t miss out on capturing those memories for your family and friends, I would definitely budget for a photographer. You can get photobooks cheap online and via Groupons and have some made up for your closer friends and family to send out after you elope (if you choose to!)

    Post # 11
    69 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    My family is crazy and loves drama. FH has a quirky family, but stable. We thought about eloping too. We decided on having a very intimate wedding inviting only 19 guests. Im calling it a compromise! Grandparents, parents, siblings (and partners), niblings and a best friend each.  This way there is no dramatic “Why arent you having a REAL wedding drama” and everyone is on their best behaviour due to the small guest numbers. Therefore peace, more money and dad walking you down the aisle,

    Hope this helps

    Post # 12
    7561 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I would elope. It sounds like your family doesn’t support your realtionship and will cause you a lot of stress. 

    Post # 13
    1438 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @MrsLevell2Be:  Elope! Elope! Elope! Even if the circumstances were much better, I would suggest elopement. Wishing I had chosen that option. Can’t believe how much stress and cost is involved in planning even a “small” wedding. You will be surprised how that guest list grows. So much more to the planning than I ever imagined. You end up offending people without intending to with the wedding plans.

    Save your self the stress and the money. Make an elopement special. Put whatever money you have toward a honeymoon, and that will be a special memory. You don’t have to just go to a judge for an elopement. You can do it in a park or a small venue, followed by a nice dinner.



    Post # 14
    832 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: Either Philadelphia City Hall or a small chapel.

    I’d say elope just for the fact your family seems like assholes. No offense.

    Post # 15
    200 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2016

    Poor thing!  I would be heartbroken too.  I am struggling with the idea of eloping vs. small vs. 100 ppl wedding.  If I were in your shoes though, I would absolutely, positively elope.  What is the point of having people there who are not supportive?  It is a very nice, however perhaps rose-colored view to expect that they will respect your relationship then, and it’s not worth risking ruining what could be an absolutely perfect elopement designed for the two of you.  Congratulations on your engagement! 

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