Should we find a new daycare?

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

I wouldn’t want my child to be in a car without me there. Sure the mom may be a great driver, but accidents do happen and it may not even be her fault. So that is a big no-no for me. If the field trips were walking distance or taking a bus, that would be okay for me. 

But I would not leave my child in the care of someone who plops him/her in front of the TV all day! And do they feed him enough? Or do you bring his lunch and snacks?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

I would probably go to the other daycare.  It sounds like a much more calm environment, and much better for your baby.  I wouldn’t worry about the driving part.  As long as she has a clean record, I wouldn’t be concerned.  I used to be a nanny, and I can tell you – I never drove safer than when I had those kids with me!

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Only you will be able to make this decision, but:

– all kids who start daycare, pre-school or kindergarten (whatever is their first exposure to group care) get colds all the time. It’s how they build up their immunity. Eventually it stops.

-most moms who care for their kids at home do not have a set schedule and their kids are just fine

– the issue of the garage door not being open when you come might be a safety issue with the other children

– do you do spot checks by showing up unannounced? All parents of children in care should do this.

– honestly 13 kids for 2 caregivers seems excessive to me. Adding 2 more babies would be over the top.

I would choose the other daycare provider.

I do have some concern about you stating that you can check her driving record because you work for the Department of Transportation. You have to know that that is unethical behavior and could be grounds for dismissal.

 

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

@julies1949:  “- all kids who start daycare, pre-school or kindergarten (whatever is their first exposure to group care) get colds all the time. It’s how they build up their immunity. Eventually it stops.

-most moms who care for their kids at home do not have a set schedule and their kids are just fine

– the issue of the garage door not being open when you come might be a safety issue with the other children”


I agree.  I don’t see any of the above as real issues with the current daycare.

OP – That said, it does sound to me like the new daycare you found with give him more personal attention and seems to be more in line with what you would prefer to see for your son.  I wouldn’t have any concerns with occasional field trips so long as the woman has a good driving record.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Hmmm, my main concerns with this daycare are:

  • the child/adult ratio.  Without including their own children, that’s like 5:1, which is pretty high with some many infats/toddlers running around.
  • no set napping schedule.  Your DS might be too young to consistently nap on schedule, but as he gets older, I think a schedule is very important.
  • no set activity schedule.  It kinda sounds like the kids are expected to entertain themselves all day, which would bother me a little bit.  Also, the use of tv for a 5 month is concerning.
  • I know you said the licensing doesn’t bother you, but it would be a total dealbreaker for me. 

If the other provider had a lower child:adult ration, had set activities and a set nap schedule and was licensed, I would switch in a heartbeat.  If you’re concerned about the field trips, maybe ask her for a copy of her DMV records and explain your concerns.  I think you should be able to have this conversation with your daycare provider (whoever that might be), and be able to work through to a compromise you both feel comfortable with.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Keeping track of this thread… Husband and I got into a discussion the other night. He is not liking the daycare idea and would prefer me to stay home…. not sure how I feel about that….will show this to him later.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Actually licensing IS a big deal to me because of the standards they set and check. For instance, hazards, schedules/activities (plopping kids in front of tv all day is a no no if you’re licensed), background checks including driving record, safety, cleanliness, nutrition, and number of kids per caregiver. Where I’m from, its 3 children under 2 years to 1 caregiver because of safety, getting enough attention, etc. I may be biased because I used to work as one of the licensing auditors who did surprise checks at childcare facilities. Being licensed doesn’t make a center perfect, but it does make them accountable to a higher standard.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

My big concern, as others have said, is the caregiver to child ratio.  I guess it’s not a legal issue if they are not licensed, but personally I’d try to find a place that still followed similar guidelines.  I agree with ellebeerob that finding a licensed place would likely eliminate a lot of your legitimate causes for concern because they do have to follow specific rules.  Even though the new provider is smaller, it doesn’t sound like you know her in the same way as your current provider.  If I were to use an unlicensed provider, I’d want it to be someone I knew and trusted.  You may want to keep researching – do you have other local mom friends that you can ask for a recommend?

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m also pretty concerned that they’re not licensed. I don’t know about Iowa, but in the other states I’ve lived in (AZ and CO) if someone is taking care of more than a certain amount of children they must have a license or they’re running an illegal daycare. This may not be the case for your providers, but it worries me because they aren’t being held accountable by anyone. 

Id switch providers (and I do think it’s more common for providers to drive kids around)

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

In a lot of places, it’s actually illegal to have more than 2 babies at a time (older kids are ok). It sounds like they will be exceeding that amount in the fall, and because they are not licensed, there will not be any way to enforce it.

I think if it were me, i’d find another place. I’d also be really mad that my kid was watching a lot of TV!!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I am in the agreement of the majority, I would change daycares, and look for a licensed daycare.

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