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Also, would we still technically be able to call the 11th our "anniversary" if we did the quickie ceremony on Friday but had the celebration the next day?
From the tone of your explanation, it sounds like you're more emotionally attached to Saturday and that you're trying to talk yourself into Friday. I think you should go with what you feel more strongly about.
@Jenniferk6: I don't really have a strong attachment to either; I think I'm just psyching myself out, thinking that it won't feel as special. But I also think that since we're having our celebration and reception on Saturday, with toasts and some readings at the restaurant, that would technically be our "wedding," right?
What you have planned for Saturday is technically a reception, not technically a wedding. What you're doing at the courthouse is your wedding because that's where you get married. I'd do them on the same day, so that my exuberance from getting married carries over into the reception, but if you want to spread them out that's OK. It's completely up to how you want the day to go.
@Jenniferk6: Haha, I was trying to find a loophole and failed hard. ;P We'll see if the courthouse is available on Saturday and, I guess, just go earlier in the morning or something.
If there's an extra fee for getting married on Saturday, since the courthouse isn't technically open, we'd do it on Friday anyway--we're doing it this way so we don't have to pay the $300 JP fee.
@Statutory Grape: Why wouldn't all 30 people be able to come to the wedding if it was on a Saturday? I would go with the Sat. because 12-11-10 is a cool date and you can have all of your celebrations on the same day. Good Luck!
PS: I think you should wear the green dress that you are getting made.
I think you should go with Saturday. That way you will be feeling the high from your ceremony into your reception. If I were you, I would just have immediate family at the ceremony as to not hurt any feelings. It is easy to say to people "immediate family only" so parents, siblings and grandparents. I think people will understand and will jsut be happy to see you and celebrate with you!
We decided to go with Friday because the JP cost for Saturdays is just too expensive for us. We'll have my MOH and my aunt with us as witnesses, but we'll have the reception that Saturday. There is not enough room in the judge's chamber to have all 30 people, anyway, so this works out for the best.
@Statutory Grape: I think its kind of fun this way - you get to celebrate with just the two of you on your actual wedding day...have your first night together as husband and wife....then have a wonderful party and celebration with family and friends the next day! I would have loved to eat alone with my hubby on our wedding night but our first meal as husband and wife wasnt until the next night when we were finally alone! You will get to relish just the two of you in all your wedded bliss :-)
@Statutory Grape: That's great that everything worked out. Are you going to wear the dress that you are getting made?
As for what to wear... you can wear whatever you want! I used to clerk for a judge and I have seen people in wedding gowns with bouquets, bridesmaids... the works! Others have come in jeans, church attire, etc.
@trugem: I'll wear the custom-made dress on the reception day but am leaning toward a simpler but classy outfit for the ceremony. Maybe even a hat!
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FH and I were chatting last night and the topic of whether we should get married on Friday, December 10, at the courthouse or try to find a JP who will do it on Saturday the 11th (there may or may not be a charge for this) came up.
Friday wedding pros:
- Less stress on Saturday; no worries about having to pick and choose who would come with us (because they all want to, but 30 people for a courthouse wedding seems ridiculous)
- I could have a "grand entrance" (LOL.) on Saturday morning after I get my hair done and everything, since we'd tell everyone to meet at my grandma's house. Families would get to meet, too.
Friday wedding cons:
- I don't know if a "wedding weekend" like this would have the same special feeling.
Not a con, but a question:- What would I wear to the courthouse, just everyday clothes? I mean, since the whole thing would take maybe five minutes (to sign the license and whatnot) there's not really a point in getting all dressed up when we'd just be going home afterward.
Saturday wedding pros:
- I think it'll feel more like our wedding day if the events aren't split up (but I'm probably being silly about this!)
Saturday wedding cons:
- Have to choose who goes to the courthouse with us; risk hurting feelings
- Things would seem really rushed in general
- I don't like the idea of abandoning half our guests somewhere while we run off and do the ceremony
What do you think, Bees?
I don't have an attachment to either day, to be honest. Friday seems a little anticlimactic, but I told FH he has to take me out somewhere nice if we do sign the license on Friday and have our ceremony. :P