Post # 1
Here’s the gist of my dilemma — there’s a gorgeous antique cushion cut that I love, but have a few reservations about. Did anyone else have similar thoughts, and what did you end up doing?
(The pro: it has a pretty cool story (jeweler said it’s between and OMC and OEC), I love the idea of something old, and it has really pretty chunky flashes. I always thought I would want something super sparkly, but in person I ended up liking the more subdued look of an antique better.)
1. It’s big. I mean, it’s not big for NYC (where we live) standards, but I have size 4 fingers and I don’t really wear jewelry, and it’s much bigger than I ever planned to get. I get the sense that having an ostentatious diamond is socially uncool. Also, we might leave the city in a few years, and then there’s really no excuse for this size.
2. It’s expensive. It’s 2x what we originally planned on spending. While it’s affordable (we started out with a low budget), I can’t shake the feeling that it’s really wasteful.
We just put down a deposit, but it’s refundable within 3 days. I started having major anxiety as soon as the card was swiped… Should we keep it?
Post # 2
Hell naw don’t get that. Get your money back and get a modest diamond and a bad ass OEC moissanite all for half the price.
Post # 3
I don’t think you are convinced enough by it to merit doubling your budget.
Post # 4
sensoda : I mean, it’s absolutely beautiful, and we haven’t found anything nearly this exciting for the original budget. BF’s opinion is we should spend 2x to get what we love instead of x for what we like.
Post # 5
You did not say what size it is. Maybe what seems huge to you may not really be so large after all. Maybe once you’ve worn it you will think it is just perfect for you and your anxiety comes from not being used to wearing much jewelry. Also the setting is important. If it’s going to have a halo obviously it will look larger. If you really truly love it and it’s so unique you don’t think you’ll come across another like it and you can easily afford it without any financial strain I would probably go for it. But then I’m a jewellery fanatic LOL 🙂 and I love unique things!
Post # 6
ducktales : Old cuts are a thing of beuty. But, there are more out there. I don’t think you should double your budget on a ring you have reservations about. If you are not 100% ‘done and done’, then it is a no.
If you post your budget, us Bees can send you a few to look at that might help clarify what you want.
Post # 7
Specs would help, but based on it being 2 x budget I would say a big fat no.
Post # 8
If it’s still affordable, while budgets are a nice guideline, if you lowball your “budget” like it sounds like you have, and then can’t find anything in that range, I say why not blow the budget as long as it’s not hurting you otherwise financially. We did this with our house. We set a super low ball budget, and then didn’t like anything in that range. We ended up blowing the budget by 100-150k, no regrets. The only question I would ask myself is if that price is fair for that stone.
Post # 9
majorairhead : Yeah, agreed. We’re definitely going no halo, no sidestones, etc. The jeweler said they can do a super thin, unobtrusive band and it’ll be a plain setting.
It’s approx. 9mm x 9mm across the top, although it’s a little tall like most antique cushions.
Post # 10
I think you’re a little unsure because of the size and price, not if you love it or not. If I want something expensive, even if we can afford it, I’m still unsure just because of big money purchases lol.
I don’t think the size matters if you move out of state or anything. You like what you like and if you can afford it just fine, I say go for it. If you can afford it just fine even if it’s double the original budget then I think don’t worry about the price. But if spending double the budget would affect you guys negatively, then I say don’t spend what isn’t comfortable for you both.
Post # 11
ducktales : Get it if you love it, especially if you do not believe in upgrading and doubling your budget would not result in a material financial set back. Something like that on a plain, knife edge setting? Holey moley!
Post # 12
If you really love the stone and find it personally satisfying in any way, I would go for it. You never know when you will get the chance to find a stone that beautiful because they are very rare and one of a kind. Think about staring at it on a boring day…
If that doesnt spark your interest at all then don’t bother.
Congrats on the occasion!! Have fun with making the final choice!
Post # 13
ducktales : It sounds like a wonderful stone and it is a good investment. I have an old mine cut (although it looks to me like an OEC), and absolutely love it. It sparkles beautifully in the sun and just glows in low light. I don’t think you will regret it. 🙂
Post # 14
If you still consider it affordable, I don’t see the problem there. How many carats is it?
Post # 15
How much exactly is doubling your budget? If it’s like $10k more, then I personally wouldn’t, especially if you aren’t really a jewelry person and don’t seem like you’d be comfortable with an “ostentatious diamond.” A 9mm cushion is at least 3 carats I think and that’s alot of look for a size 4 finger, even as a solitaire.