- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
FI and I are moving to SF. We’ve been having a hard time with getting ready for the move, with family and money. We are both very stressed out and ready to get out of here. But we have an option to go to Vegas for free before we move. We just have to pay our gas to get there. Room and food free. However, we’re hesitant if we should just stay the extra days and do last minute things here instead of using the money for Vegas. Here’s a little back story:
I stopped talking to my mom 5 months ago. I canceled my wedding because of her. For good reasons I don’t want her in my life right now. Since I was living with her, I moved out with no where to go. FI lives with his parents because they are elderly and his dad is very sick, his mom is 75. He moved back to help his terminally ill father. The dad said I couldn’t live there, even though they have a 6 bdrm house with just them living there. That’s fine, his home, he has the right. I was pretty much homeless. FI and I used up all our moving savings to rent me a room. That got too expensive and I am now at my dad’s which is a full house, no room for me, but beats being homeless. I quick my job because we were about to move, but then I got into a car accident. Had to fix my car and use up all my savings again.
FI and I have a job and loft up north already. Ready to work as soon as we get there. But we wanted to save up a good amount of money instead of being broke and starting with literally nothing in our pockets and furniture. And his dad kept getting sicker which FI had to stay longer and help with him and his sister who has ceribal-palsy.
Everything has been really hard on us. And at times mad at each other, but quickly resolve our problems and support each other no matter what. We can finally leave on Friday to our new home and life together. We are not young and FI is 10yrs older than me. We want to start our life together and start a family, but can’t do that with taking care of everyone else.
With everything that’s been going on, stress, hard times, being emotional, I think we really can use and deserve a one day vacation, before going back to work full time in our new city away from family and friends. But we can use that money to get FI’s eye glasses and get my brakes fix. Which we can always do when we move up north, but should we just do that now instead of Vegas? Should we just say fuck it and finally relax for one day in Vegas or continue our priorities with no time to relax? Lol