- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
Our invitations are all addressed and ready to go out on Monday.
Our venue holds 80 people and we are sending out 83 invites. There are 3 people who are going to decline the invite (we’ve already talked to them, but since it is my FI’s 93 year old grandmother we don’t want to take the thrill of receiving an invite in the mail away from her). This puts us at full capacity with 80 guests.
Our B-list is 13 people we would like to invite, but literally do not have space for if all RSVP “yes” because our venue cannot hold 93 people. These 13 people are mostly my cousins. We decided early on to only include my aunts and uncles (no cousins) due to the large size of my family. It all sounds great in theory, and I agreee that it is fair to include all of them or none of them.
However now I am starting to feel extremely guilty about the people we cannot include. One of my cousins is the officiants daughter and the officiant’s wife mentioned to me how much she loves the place we are getting married and how their daugther wants to see her dad perform a wedding ceremony. One of my other B-list cousins is my parent’s godson. He went to graduate school with my best friend and I was on the phone with her the other day and she’s like “What?!?- you are not inviting Tom? He is family- I’m just a friend! I feel guilty attending your wedding when he is not invited”. Of course, I explained to her that we made the decision to cut all cousins across the board to make it fair, but now I am second guessing our decisions.
So should we try for a B-list? Or should I just stick with my original plan and continue to explain to the family that none of the cousins are invited.