Post # 1
I recently got engaged over new years, and I have been mulling over whether or not to have an engagement party. From what I understand, the idea of an engagement party is to announce the engagement as well as for the two families to meet. The majority of my fiance’s family is out of town, so it would be 95% my family and my extended family. Since we have already told everyone, would it just be an unnecessary party? Our wedding will likely be in summer 2014, so it would be nice to celebrate a bit this far in advance. Honestly, I’m used to taking more of a backseat, and I would enjoy the attention. However, I don’t need gifts or to add this onto a list of obligatory events, where the guests feel burned out by the time the actual wedding comes. Any thoughts would be appreciated. Thanks
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I’m pretty sure an engagement party is thrown by someone else to congratulate the newly engaged couple. So if you want to go by the standard, it’s not necessarily your call. Of course, many people do throw their own engagement parties, and in that case, I’d say the answer is “if you want to, why not?”
Post # 4
You don’t really throw your own engagement party. If someone offers to have you one, then cool, but you shouldn’t plan it yourself. We didn’t have one – and we didn’t really need it. A few times people “celebrated” with us by taking us out for coffee or lunch, just to hear the story and congratulate us. But nothing formal.
Post # 5
We didn’t have one. Instead we had dinner with all of our bridal party so they could meet and get to know each other. Informal and low key.
Post # 6
You could have a simple one with cute cup cakes and some snack and drink with your close family and friends. Just let your guests know in advance that it would be a simple get together and you wouldn’t expect any gifts.
Post # 7
I think I’ll just let it be for now and see if any friends or family get inspired to throw something- there will be lots of time to celebrate. Thanks for you input! This was my first post, and I’m enjoying being part of this community. It can be daunting to begin this wedding planning journey, but its been fun to read the message boards to get ideas and support
Post # 8
@LilyMarie: FI and I threw our own engagement party. *GASP* I know, everyone seems to frown upon it. But for us it was just a reason to take our friends out to dinner, have a 2 hour open bar and celebrate much like our group of friends does a birthday. It wasn’t about families meeting or presents or anything else. It was just a fun night out on the town for us and our close friends. We did it our way and it was absolutely perfect. Our party was last September and people still talk about how much fun it was!
Do what you want.
Post # 9
We got engaged in Texas so we had plenty of time to celebrate with his family so when we got back to Vegas my mom had a family only engagement party… It was really low maintenance, we just had a little BBQ and everyone congratulated us I really enjoyed it .. It was just 4 of my aunts and their families (we did get about 600 bucks towards the wedding) but we weren’t expecting gifts 🙂
Post # 10
My SO and I would throw one ourselves I dont think we really care what others may think..If you want to have a little party of your own why not.
Post # 11
We had our engagement party the night we got engaged! Apparently all our friends knew FI was going to do it!
But PP is right, someone throws an engagement party for you, you don’t throw it for yourself!
Post # 12
We chose to not have one for the same his family is out of town reason. But I’ve been to many ranging from cupcakes and pizza to formal affairs that could rival a wedding! They’ve been everything from surprises for the bride and groom, to thrown by family or the bride and groom themselves!
I think if you want to have a party, you should go for it! Who doesn’t love a reason to celebrate?!
Post # 13
It doesn’t have to be a big expensive deal. I had one and it was at my parents’ house and it was immediate families and close friends/bridal party. My mom and I made all the food ourselves. It was a nice opportunity to get everyone together before the holidays (ours was about a year out or so) and give people the head’s up about the wedding plans.