Should we have an engagement party?

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
Member
6525 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@taylorkirby:  You can’t invite people to your e-party that won’t be invited to the wedding. Same applies for bridal showers and any other wedding related party. Its really rude of someone to ask if they are going to be invited to something. If you should come across that, you simply be honest and say “we are having a small engagement party just for close family and friends”. 

Also, I have never heard of people registering for gifts for an e-party. For the wedding, yes, but not for e-party.

Me, personally, we did not have an e-party. We don’t believe in them. I actually started a thread about this snd learned that there are a bunch of reasons why people have e-parties. But where I live, people have e-parties in hopes of “raising” money for a wedding OR if they are having a destination weddding and they know a lot of people won’t be coming to the wedding, so they can celebrate at the e-party.

Post # 5
Member
6525 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@taylorkirby:  Lol yea..I think registering for gifts and “asking” for money is both strange.

An e-partyiwould be like a preview of your wedding lol

if you invite someone to the e-party abd not to the wedding they will think you forgot to invite them, or they would find out they weren’t invited and then you will be thought of as rude. 

Happy planning!!!

Post # 6
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1793 posts
Buzzing bee

You only invite wedding guests to pre-wedding events and I have never seen anyone register for an e-party.  It isn’t a gift giving event but I have seen people take a photo frame or a bottle of wine as a nice gesture.

Have the e-party if you wish but only invite those invited to the wedding.

Post # 7
Member
1266 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I would only invite people that are going to be at the wedding.  It would be pretty awkward to be invited to someone’s engagement party and then not the wedding.  Who are the people you would invite to the party and not the wedding?

My FI and I had our engagement party a few weeks ago, and it was so much fun!  We only invited close family and friends, so it was about 35 people.  On the directions card I put “Your presence is the only gift required” (I know this isn’t technically proper etiquette, but it was the right call for us and our guests) and for the most part people stuck to it.  If anyone asked, I explained that since we aren’t getting married for two more years (Aug. 2015) and are still long distance, we didn’t want to accumulate any items before I moved.  Actually, the only gifts we received were checks from people who couldn’t make it and my mom’s best friend gave me a ring holder.  We honestly just wanted to get everyone together to celebrate, especially as the wedding is so far off, and everyone got that.  To the people saying that these parties are only for getting money or being gift-grabby, I say that the people you’re inviting know you, they know you’re not that type of person, and therefore know that that’s not the reason for the party.  I’m so glad we were able to share our happiness with our family and friends at our engagement party!

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