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I don't think it's tacky. No one has to buy it for you if they don't want to. I think it's way more tacky to make snarky comments at the bride and groom over it.
I really don't think it's tacky. I know of people that have registered for very expensive espresso machines, vacuums, etc. Plus with gifts like that it gives people the opportunity to go in on a gift for you guys. Macy's also has coupons all the time!
I dont think that tacky is the right word, but.... personally... I probably wouldn't have put them on my registry. Thats just WAY too expensive, especially for 2 glasses.
No! I had one guest by us a $750 set of le creuset cookware! And we have other items like rugs on our registry that are around this price. Some close family friends want to spend that much. And if they don't they have plenty of other options on the registry!
whatever- ignore the people who say it is tacky. if everything on your registry was like that- then yeah wow, but why should peopl ecare what you register for!? If you were my friend and i knew the story, I would totally try to get a group of people to go in for them as a group gift! So leave them, and ignore the rude people!
when people i know put very expensive pieces in their registries i just raise an eyebrow. i dont know if its tacky but its definitely a bit bold and forward to put it in there. I know that its just a wish list but technically you invite your guests to choose wedding gifts from that list so you do expect them to consider it and actually buy it for you. personally i wouldnt put it up there, since its very likely that no one is actually going to buy it for you.
I don't see why anyone should think twice about what you have on your registry. If I saw that, I would think, "Hmm, I'm not going to buy $400 glasses for them but what else is on here . . ." Especially since most registries have completion bonuses (I'm pretty sure Macy's does), I'd just figure the couple might be planning on buying the item themselves. We have a $600 table on our registry - definitely don't expect anyone to buy it, but if we're going to end up buying it ourselves anyway, why not save the 10%?
Honestly? If I were in your shoes, any time anyone even came close to mentioning them, I'd be like, "Oh yeah, we don't expect anyone to buy us those - we're just looking forward to buying them with the completion discount after the wedding!"
I registered for a $500 camera. I figured, I don't want pots, I want a camera. I got a lot of shit for it but someone bought it for us and I love it.
I'm cool with a few choice pricey gifts. Sometimes people like to team up and buy those. For example, my girlfriends got us a Wii and a whole bunch of games, Wii Fit, etc. I've gone in on a KA Stand Mixer before. Totally fine.
I don't think it's tacky @ all. As others have pointed out, this is essentially a wish list & the flutes are something you wish to have. We registered for a couple things over $200, and while we'd never expect anyone to buy them for us, but it is stuff we want. We decided that if people were to give us giftcards they'd be used towards the more expensive items. I say go for it and screw the people w/ the rude comments.
Don't listen to them. If someone does not want to buy them, they don't have to and they can pick something else on the registry. However, I'm sure you have people, or a group of people in your life who would love to buy those flutes for you. I don't see anything wrong with it.
I don't think it's tacky. I, myself, might raise an eyebrow, but just as someone else said....I'd just move on and look for something in my price range. My sister put an incredibly expensive vacuum cleaner on her registry and fully expected that no one would be able to get it for her.
When our cousin couldn't make it to the wedding, she decided to buy the vacuum for my sister. She's someone who can afford that price range anyway, so it seemed like a very nice gesture (not just trying to buy her forgiveness for not being able to make it). You never know!
I think its totally ok, can't you buy anything left on your registry for 20% off a few months after the wedding? (I wasn't paying a lot of attention when we registered at Macys)
I see no problem with it. We registered for some expensive items, but more for the completion bonus. When I see an item on a registry that is out of my price range, I personally have no raised eye brow, and pass no judgement at all.
Just because I can't afford it doesn't mean there isn't someone on the guest list who can't.
We registered only a month ago and already someone purchased my kitchen aide mixer (300$) and our entire dish set (200$). We actually didn't expect those to go, but those were first! I see no problem with it, and I don't see why anyone who loves you would judge you as "tacky" or anything else negative simply because its on a wish list.
I mean, it's crazy expensive and I don't think I would have put it on my registry. But, it is a wish list and really, if anyone is bother by it, they don't have to buy it for you!
I think it's tacky that people are making snarky comments to you about things on your registry. We registered for a few expensive items hoping that people would go in on them together (not expecting one person to honestly shell out that much money on a gift).
I just think its 'tacky' for people to even THINK about making comments to you about it. The have the option to buy something off your registry, or not, to spend $5, $500 or nothing at all, etc. If all your guests think $400 glasses are stupid, then no one will buy them for you, end of story.
It just irks me because I think it probably comes down to people judging you for wanting something expensive. Most people have SOMETHING that they are willing to spend more money on then the average person (be it vacations, shoes, cigarettes, furniture, etc). I was actually tempted by the toasting flutes as well, for similar sentimental reasons (FI and I have been to the swarvoski museum together, and think there crystal is really beautiful, especially these glasses. I mentioned it to my mom (just that I wish I had them, not that I was going to buy them or register for them) and she just rolled her eyes and asked why I possibly needed champagne glasses. I should have reminded her that my Aunt purchased her full set of Waterford crystal wine glasses for her wedding, and that she has managed to acquire more expensive china than anyone could possibly need in a lifetime. sorry... /end rant lol
People are so judgemental of others. Its your wedding, you want them and maybe someone will buy them. If not you get the discount afterwards. You dont need to explain yourself to anyone either. Do what YOU want to do because its YOUR wedding. If someone doesn't pick you apart about this they surely will find something else to pick you apart over. Thats just how people are. Go with your instincts and try not to doubt yourself. If I had the money to buy someone a gift like that, I would. And dont forget, lots of people somethings chip in to get a lager gift. It is possible you may get it.
We registered for a wooden salad bowl from Macy's that is upwards of $100 and I felt really guilty about it for a long time after registereing. ($100?! For a WOODEN bowl?!) But my darling Mr. Madtown, and many family members including my mom, have made me feel better with all of the same advice you wonderful Bees are giving. It's your registry. You would be thrilled to receive the glasses. If I were part of a group of people buying you a gift, how fun to get you something so extravagant! People won't buy what's out of their price range, but some guests really are looking to spoil the bride and groom. If someone buys it, they chose to because they wanted to. Enjoy it!
@daydreamwanderer: You know, I'd agree about making the completion discount comment if they weren't toasting flutes. However, that is the type of gift a couple puts on there to be purchased for toasting AT the wedding. I find that particular item to be much too pricey and can't imagine putting it on a registry myself. I think there is a big difference between a $500 vacuum and $300+ in two glasses.
Regardless, I still think people should keep their mouths shut when it comes to talking about this to you and your fiance. Have your opinion but keep it to yourself, you know?
If you don't get this set, do you have a backup set for the actual wedding?
I guess for now we will leave it and hope no one else gets too worked up about it. We do really love them and want to buy them for ourselves if no one else decides to. Reading all of your posts and thinking about all that has happened to us and all of the comments we have received since we started planning it makes me wonder: Why is everyone so judgemental? I mean if I were throwing a dinner party at my house and my guests chose to make snarky comments about what I was wearing, the food I was serving and the things I chose to decorate my house with we would all consider them to be incredibly rude and never invite them back! Yet when it is our wedding we all seem to think it is perfectly acceptable to pick on everything from the bride's attire to the food to the centerpieces. I guess in the end you cant make everyone happy...thanks for the support and opinion Bees!
@christalynn11: But she collects this certain line - so whose to say she doesn't want them even if not for the wedding?
I don't know, I just really don't think people should judge what someone else wants, haha.
I would love to see something like that on someone's registry. It's not like you're registering for dozens of expensive items...you're being reasonable and giving people choices. It would be a fabulous gift for a bunch of your friends to buy as a group...
Mrs. Tillmann, I thought of you today when someone who is planning on attending my shower made a snarky comment about purchasing a $10 spatula. I guess the guest was put off by the idea that I expected my guests to spend $10 on just a SPATULA. I suppose there are just some people out there who feel the need for whatever reason to criticize other people's registries... and I don't think it has anything to do with OUR choices as to what we've put on our registries, but has more to do with their own shortcomings. I'd rather she didn't buy the damn spatula if buying the spatula means she now has the right to b*tch about the cost of it. :)
Its not tacky at all, we registered for a $350 stand mixer. Its a wish list, that doesn't mean anybody HAS to get it for you.
We registered for an expensive stand mixer too... My fiance promised that after the wedding he would purchase it for me because he couldn't foresee anyone buying it for us. Well, someone already bought it and they purchased it as a shower gift! I'm thrilled! It just proves that you should definitely have a few higher ticket price items on your registry because people might actually want to buy them!
Don't feel guilty at all!
We put a set of $600 pots and pans on the registry and a $200 knife set. We figured no one would purchase them, and if they did - it would be a joint gift. Well my aunt and her girlfriend purchased our knives as our shower gift.
As expected, no one purchased the pots and pans, so we took the gift cards and purchased them ourselves. We had a 20% off coupon (saved $120 dollars), they were running a promo in which we received a $50 gift card for every $300 spent on Calphalon products (so we received $100), and then we received a free pot w/ the purchase ($150 pot). Wih the gift cards and money we received from the shower, we only spent $250 on the pots!!!!! And we were able to use the $100 gift card to pay for our silverware which was $100.
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Hey Ladies! Looking for some opinions on whether or not it is tacky that we registered for a 390 dollar pair of Swarovski toasting flutes. My fiance and I have a special connection to Swarovski as he has given me the limited edition of the snowflake ornament every year since we began dating. We are now planning a snowflake themed winter white wedding and when we stumbled across these flutes at Macy's we were smitten. When I found out the price, however, I said there was no way we could register for them without being tacky. The incredibly persuasive registry assistant along with a long day and tired feet and minds, however, convinced us to go ahead and add it. The registry assistant said it wasnt tacky because this was a wish list and it certainly didnt mean anyone had to buy it for us, however, since then I have been on the receiving end of several snarky comments regarding them being on there and I am feeling uncomfortable. We wouldnt have put them on there if we werent truly head over heels in love with them but maybe we shouldnt have...what are your opinions? Is it tacky to include something that expensive?