Post # 1
My fiance has a daughter with his ex-girlfriend (DD is 33) and they have remained friends. It doesn’t bother me in the slightest if he wants to invite her. My only thought is that it may be awkward as I’ve never met her and I know that she has always had feelings for him. What do you all think?
Post # 2
I would say no.
Too much potential for drama. That is, unless the daughter really needs or wants her there.
Post # 3
If they have a child together, I think it is okay to invite her. Especially if it will break ties or make the daughter feel “in the middle” if you don’t invite her. However, since the daughter is a grown adult I don’t think it is really necessary. She can come with her own family/ loved ones. It is really up to you and your fiance.
Post # 4
Given the age of the daughter, no I wouldn’t invite her.
Both myself and FI are good friends with my ex H – we socialise with him and his GF quite regularly, and myself and ex H have apartments in the same building! – but when FI and I marry he won’t be invited.
I asked ex H about it when we got engaged, and he said it would be too weird.
Post # 6
Agree with pp’s, no she should not be invited. Awkward…
Post # 7
Hmm. The daughter is grown so I don’t think it’s necessary but I suppose it’s a nice gesture.
My FI has a son with an ex girlfriend. She and I get along well. We’re inviting her and her FI because it would do nothing but cause problems if we didn’t.
Post # 10
You all have confirmed how I feel deep down
Not only have I never met her, but I also have felt that, when fiance and I got engaged that she was a bit resentful of me. Plus, I think she might feel obligated to come and that might be very awkward for her.
Post # 11
Don’t do it. She has no need to be there. Start your marriage with boundaries in place.
Post # 12
wifetobee63: “I know that she has always had feelings for him.”
Then no, just no …<br /><br /><br />
Post # 13
FI and I joked about inviting his ex too. We are cordial and have socialized in the past, but I feel it would be awkward for her, us, the kids and the mutual friends, so in the end we didn’t
Post # 15
wifetobee63: No, when my husband and I got married, the last person we thought to invite was my ex.