(Closed) Should we return our china?

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Return it or not?
    Return it : (14 votes)
    32 %
    Keep it : (30 votes)
    68 %
  • Post # 3
    426 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Personally I would never return a wedding gift to pay down debt. I just think that’s a momentary solution that’s going to haunt you for years. I also wouldn’t have registered for China unless I really wanted it, could envision using it for years to come, and even considered passing it down at some time. It becomes an hierloom in my mind, and when I start pawning my possessions to pay down a credit card debt it’s time to start looking at how I manage finances. I’m not saying that’s the case with you however. Times are tough. This is a momentary thing, it will pass. Pay as much as you can for toward the credit card balance every month. If you make a budget for the week, and have $20 left over, send it to the cc. Don’t use it anymore. It’ll go down in time. When you get a tax return put it to it. Cancel cable if you haven’t already – there are a lot of options.

    Post # 5
    7587 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Return it if you need the money. You can always re-buy when you’re stable.

    Post # 6
    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I agree with Lola, if you do return it, your never going to go get all the pieces again.

    Post # 7
    2867 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I’d say keep it actually. I feel like china isn’t really a “NEED” but if you return it now to pay down a minimal amount of debt, it’s one of those things you’ll never re-buy. It’s something that isn’t used often and there’s usually something better to spend the money on.

    I now have my grandmother’s china that my mother also used along with mine. We won’t really use it now but I know when we have a family – we’ll use it for special occasions.

    Post # 8
    622 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I agree with Lola’s comment.  She had great advice.  🙂

    Post # 9
    7695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Dont sell it. I agree with Lola. $2,000 really isnt that much debt anyways and you should be able to get that paid off pretty quickly if you are diligent about savings. There are SO many ways to save money you just have to make a conscious effort and that can be really hard sometimes. I feel like selling the china is an easy fix for this problem. However this might not be the last time you get into a situation like this and you cant just resort to selling your possessions every time you have a balance on your credit card. Even though it might look like a good idea now I think you will regret this down the line.

    Post # 10
    85 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    Return it!  Your new china is not a family heirloom yet, so there is no personal attachment to it yet.  It will give you a lot more piece of mind to pay off the CC and get out of debt using the money then to not pay it off and to have China you rarely use sitting on a shelf.  Pay off the cc NOW and start saving.  Maybe make it a goal to be able to buy back the China on your 1st or 5th anniversary.  It will be that much more special to you because you saved up for it and know at that point you really want it (and can afford it). 



    Post # 11
    1986 posts
    Buzzing bee

    What would you tell your MIL?

    Post # 12
    1391 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @Belle2Be: “My Mother-In-Law offered to return all the china and write us a check for that amount instead.”  🙂

    I agree with lola2011. Keep the china.

    Post # 13
    489 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I think you’ll regret it if you return it.  Otherwise you wouldn’t have doubts now.

    Post # 14
    1876 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Keep it! If only because you’ll harbor resentment towards your Hubs that you had to give up something sentimental for him.

    Also – is there anyway you hubby can work part-time while in school? it seems that being the sole bread winner is weighing on your, and causing debt. Maybe if he can contribute (even a little bit) it’ll help.

    Post # 15
    4824 posts
    Honey bee

    Many people like the idea of china, but never use it (or only once a year) others use it frequently.  Which camp do you fall into?

    If you like the idea of it mostly and dont see yourself using it more than for one dinner a year, then I would return it.  Its something you will always have to store for once a year use. 

    I only have a few pieces of my china from engagement gifts and I have already used those few serving pieces a few times.

    Post # 16
    1986 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @missfireslayer: Ah, reading comp fail. Good catch!

    I still say keep it!! 2k isn’t a TON of money. Just watch your spending and don’t put more on the CC.

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