(Closed) Should we send save-the-dates or not?

posted 7 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Should we send save-the-dates?
    Yes, of course--they need to know, especially if they're OOT guests : (6 votes)
    20 %
    Yes, but only send them to the people you had on your original list, leaving wiggle room for later : (6 votes)
    20 %
    Yes; other : (2 votes)
    7 %
    No; save-the-dates are pointless and a waste of money : (8 votes)
    27 %
    No; you need to leave the list totally open until actual invites go out, just in case : (4 votes)
    13 %
    No; other : (4 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 4
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    1418 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Since you have a lot of OOT guests, I would probably do them.  I will be sending ours out soonish here…still working on the address collection!  We have most of FI’s family that will be OOT.  However, I would only send them to people you will for sure be inviting.  If you are on the fence at all about someone, I wouldn’t send it – just in case your plans change!

    Post # 5
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    1465 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I don’t understand the logic of sending them only to out of the area guests. Guests who live in town are equally busy and need the same courtesy of being made aware of your date before you send out invites. Without the advance notice, they may make plans for your date and not be able to attend. Send them out to everyone on the guestlist or don’t send them to anyone. But be aware that whomever they are sent to must also receive an invite so make any guestlist adjustments before the save the dates are sent.

    You are getting married so you determine who is invited and who isn’t. No one else makes that choice for you.

    Post # 7
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    149 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I voted no, but not because I think save the dates are pointless. I think they are especially important when you have OOT guests. I said no because you seem uncertain you can accomodate financially for the extra people. I think it would be risky to send STDs and later find out you can not afford for all of the people to come. I am not sure if sending them to certain people will work? How close are the new people on the guest list to the rest of the guests?

    Post # 10
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    1418 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @Selene221:  Oh we will be sending them to everyone – OOT or not.  I was just saying that if you have a lot of OOT guests that it would probably be a good option to give everyone notice.

    @Statutory Grape: You can hand deliver an invite – I would make them the same as a typical invite without the stamp, so I would still ask for addresses.  Plus, then you will have their addresses for the thank you cards.  You probably don’t want to hand deliver those.  I used Facebook to get addresses of some of my friends – it was easy and I got replies quickly.  I sent individual ones though, just so it doesn’t seem so “mass text”-like.

    Post # 11
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    149 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Well I would say send them out to the original guest list. I think they are a fun way to announce the wedding date and give everyone time to make plans! 🙂 I love the ones that I have gotten that have magnets on the back (they are cute and you wont lose them lol)

    Post # 13
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    1465 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @dance, I wasn’t saying that the OP was only sending them out to out of area guests. What I meant was that it’s a very common train of thought that only out of the area guests should receive them.

    Post # 14
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    1641 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I used to be against them, but gosh, people are SO busy nowadays. I think they appreciate ample notice so they can plan other things in their lives. We’re probably sending out informal STDs next month.

    Post # 15
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    1418 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @Selene221: Gotcha!  I haven’t really heard that – although I agree with you that it is a bit odd that only the OOT would get them.  But then, I only really found out about STDs after getting onto these wedding forums!

    Post # 16
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    183 posts
    Blushing bee

    you don’t have to do it but it is very nice for your OOT guests ..and i think it’s fun to do anyways, even if you just make them yourself. i love them and i am doing them, just another cute personal touch to the wedding 🙂

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