Post # 1
I’m ordering some small flower centerpieces from FI’s friends. They are supposedly giving us a deal. They are charging us $65 (discounted from $75) for a small centerpiece of a few roses and hydrengeas. A few people commented that it was a bit expensive (for where I live) and I could easily get the same thing for $45-$50. Well because they are friends of the FI, I don’t want to have tension. But I don’t think I want to do business with them again.
FYI, these flowers are for a shower.
Has anyone used a friend as a vendor and it was a mistake????
Post # 3
I think generally its a mistake. Some people get lucky, but a lot of times people have situations similar to yours and somebody ends up resenting someone else (feeling they got screwed with pricing) or hurting their feelings by choosing a more reasonable alternative after agreeing to use their friends first. At least that is what I understand from WeddingBee posts…
Post # 4
Friends and business do not mix at all in my experience, but some may feel different/ have different experience.
Post # 5
it’s an iffy situation for sure – i was fortunate enough to have good experiences with friendors (photog and cake) but i think i may be one of the few. i can def see how it can cause problems and i would be careful – i guess it just depends on if you want to fork over the money or not. my concern would be, if i use them for the shower are they going to expect me to use them for the wedding too?
Post # 6
I think I would go ahead and use them for the shower if they’re close friends, but definitely don’t use them for the wedding! $10 isn’t much of a deal, anyway. 😛
Post # 7
@jo.lee: I’m not using them for the wedding. Its more of a $15-$20 difference x 10 tables. Yikes.
Post # 8
I would get a quote from a friend and from elsewhere. See how your friend’s pricing compares to others. Also look for referrals and reviews of them online…
Post # 9
I’d rather stay totally clear. I know myself and as a consumer I can be very demanding and I won’t want to hold back on any concerns. And heavens forbid if something goes wrong, I wanna go ape shit without holding back (if needed).
Post # 10
We took the view that we were using friends only if we wouldn’t be devastated if they totally screwed up. And even then, if the friend was offering a discount rather than a free service, we would shop around to figure out whether the friend’s “discounted” price was truly better than what we could find elsewhere.
Post # 11
You know, my best friend and I have known each other for 13 years, and we vowed never to live together or mix friendship and money. It just never works!
Post # 12
@bklynbridetobe: Ditto. If our baker is in an accident while delivering the cake, I’d feel much better requesting a rush cake from their bakery than Aunt Martha. Or if my photos didn’t turn out, how well does taking Uncle Bob to court for the payment you already gave jive with family reunions? I’d much rather have a signed contract covering my behind and no family pressures to consider if something were to go wrong, but maybe that’s just the soon-to-be-lawyer in me. Expect the worst, and get everything in writing 🙂 Hehe.
Post # 13
The only real “friendors” we are using are ones we have seen the products of before so we aren’t surprised:
– Our DJ- who has not only DJed dances we’ve been too, he’s given us private lessons (and he’s free, being paid with dinner)
– Choreographers- FH has taken lessons from them before and while not 100% style match, they know ours and we know theirs (they also don’t normally do wedding choreography)
– Band- not really friends but familiar with each other
– Venue- they have known FH for years and love him. The organizers are great, and very open to working with our quirks
– Officiant- our only “gamble” as far as vendors go as neither of us have seen him give a sermon in person. I’ve watched videos while he was in seminary and him lead worship services in person (he’s a worship pastor) so we’re not worried. But we’re friends, and FH is a groomsman in his wedding this May.
Post # 14
I never do any kind of business with family or friends.. let alone my wedding.
We have a car that a friend of ours wants to buy. They want to give us more than we could probably sell it to anyone else for… but I don’t want to have something go wrong a few weeks or months after selling it to them and ruin the friendship.
It’s just not worth it in my opinion!