Post # 1
It never occurred to me that the groom wasn’t supposed to see the garter before the wedding day? I asked Fiance for his input when choosing between two, and the one I picked arrived last night so we opened it and I tried it on. It wasn’t until he said “is this one of those things I’m not supposed to see?” and then my mom asked the same thing: “you showed him already?”. Is this a thing? Was I supposed to keep it a secret?
Post # 3
Well the votes say I messed up!! Whoops!! Good thing he’ll probably forget before the wedding day
Post # 4
Eh I don’t think it matters. My Darling Husband saw mine. The garter IMO is very trivial compared to the dress or your overall look.
I’ve never heard of this tradition. I think you’re fine!
Post # 5
I’ve never heard of that being a surprise.
It’s a pretty new thing for garters to be anything special anyway.
Post # 6
I made the one that he has to go and get so he hasn’t seen that one since I personalized it with a little something for him, but I did show him the throw away one and he likes what I did with it. He says: “that’s original”
Post # 7
I didn’t show my husband my garter before the wedding, only because I figured he wouldn’t care.
The only time I can see it being a “surprise,” like the dress, is if a bride got a garter customized to her groom’s tastes. Like on Etsy, I’ve seen girls with firefighter garters or garters in the theme of a college team or something.
My garter was simple and pretty, and something more for me than him, so I just didn’t feel compelled to show him ahead of time.
In other words…I definitely don’t think you did anything wrong!
Post # 8
I was just so surprised that even he was like “wait…is this allowed?” I had never thought of it before. I wanted something really tasteful and simple (posted the two garters I was choosing between in a different thread I started), and it’s nothing that is customized for him. I’ve seen some girls with star wars garters or garters for baseball teams for their FIs, and those I can see being a surprise. We’re not doing a garter toss or anything, so he’s not really going to SEE anything until the dress comes off after the wedding…and by that time he probably doesn’t give a crap about a garter anyway!
Post # 9
i voted other. it really depends on the couple. obviously you guys don’t care, so why worry about it? lol.
Post # 10
@cardus: haha not really that worried, just more curious about whether or not this was something that other brides hid from their FI’s or if there really was a tradition surrounding it!
Post # 11
I’ve never heard of keeping the garter a surprise for the groom.
Darling Husband didn’t see mine but that’s because he didn’t care. If he’d wanted to see it, I’d have shown him.