(Closed) showed my mom the dress in person and…

posted 5 years ago in Dress
  • poll:
    Yes, remove the gray ribbon and replace with white : (56 votes)
    31 %
    No, keep the gray ribbon : (47 votes)
    26 %
    Yes, add a sheer/illusion neckline to the dress : (15 votes)
    8 %
    No, just use a bolero/jacket/shawl/cape/(any suggestions) as cover up in the church : (64 votes)
    35 %
  • Post # 3
    6126 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Glad to hear your mom came around! You could always make a compromise with her and wear an ivory ribbon and overlay type coverup for the ceremony. Then take off the overlay and add on the grey ribbon for the reception. Didn’t you say the grey was in your color scheme and that’s why you kept it? I changed it to the ivory because grey wasn’t one of my colors and I’m also having it sewn on so it’s more of a belt (with no bow).

    Post # 4
    2425 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I think that allusion sleeves or neckline would be too much with a very intricate dress. If your mom really wants the shoulders covered, just go for a bolero (very simple, not lace).

    I think the gray ribbon is in bad shape anyway, so I would replace it, and make it white to make your mom feel like she had some input in your dress. It won’t take anything away from the look, and if it makes her happy, fabulous!

    Post # 5
    16217 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    I personally would switch out the ribbon for white and then find a different way of covering up my shoulders for the ceremony. It looks so great on you; I wouldn’t want to add the sheer sleeves or neckline. And for what it’s worth, I love the look of the skirt!

    Post # 6
    2903 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Awe! The grey ribbon is my favorite part of the dress! Beautiful!

    Post # 7
    2419 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I agree with PP, I wouldn’t add the sleeves. Could you do like a shawl or something for the ceremony?

    Post # 8
    260 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 1999

    It’s amazing! Keep the grey ribbon but maybe sew tiny cream pearls and crystal AB swarovskis on it? Then it would be within the scheme, and you would be being a bit accomodating to your mum too but bride-ing it up a bit… But yeah I love it!

    Post # 10
    11752 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Switching the gray ribbon is up to you. This dress is gorgeous, I tried it on but I personally didn’t want the grey ribbon for my wedding, though it’s beautiful on the dress.

    I definitely would not put a sheer underlay underneath though, Just cover up some other way for the ceremony if you must.

    Post # 11
    96 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think it looks good; have to agree with the previous posters about the illusion neckline- might be a lot going on. I personally am switching the ribbon to white/ivory, and wearing it more like a belt (like jwillk) , so if you change the ribbon I think it would still look good! But don’t stress too much about pleasing your mom, remember its your wedding!

    Post # 12
    732 posts
    Busy bee

    Sorry, but I think your mom has way too many opinions on how to wear your wedding dress! Not trying to sound rude, but she needs to back off. Your dress is stunning as is 🙂

    Post # 13
    2874 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    i think it would be too much with the sheer underlay, i think its better as it is. you can add a bolero to cover up in the church

    Post # 14
    2607 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    no sheer sleeves, it willl look like a figure skaters costume! try a nice bolero, or cashmere shrug!

    Post # 15
    3417 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

    Oh I love it as is! What about a bolero to wear during the ceremony and take it off during the reception? Would she compromise? Those pictures of the sheer sleeves are pretty too though. I am just a very visual person and have a hard time imagining what your dress would look like with coverage.

    Post # 16
    6 posts

    Loose the gray ribbon. The dress is beautiful. You could have sheer cap sleeved bolero that you wear under during the ceremony and remove for the reception. 

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