Post # 1
So my friends are getting married in Mexico later this year and are having a shower next weekend. It’s being thrown by the bride’s family and both the bride and groom will be present. On the invites it says to donate to their honeymoon fund, which I have no problem with. My only question is since we were planning on giving money for the wedding present, should we donate to the honeymoon fund and for the wedding gift perhaphs pay for a spa day for the bride and groom at the resort in Mexico? Or give money for both? I was hoping they would register for shower gifts and get something like a pots and pans set around $100-$150…if I was to give cash at the shower for the honeymoon fund, would that be enough? My husband and I will both being going and the people hosting the shower are providing food and alcohol. Would it seem cheap to give $150 from both of us?
Post # 3
I have no idea but why don’t you just split up your $75 gift between both to total $150? We have a honeyfund, but did a BB&B registry for the traditionalists on my side of the family (they’re snooty). I have gotten all towels and pans so far, lol, and nobody has contributed to the honeyfund which is kind of sad. So as a person who has one and would prefer cash for the honeymoon, I don’t see why you can’t split it. 🙂 Buy diving for one person for one of the events and then buy diving again for the other person for the other or something.
Post # 4
My opinion? Go get a physical gift for the shower. Showers are for physical gifts. Don’t want physical gifts? Don’t have a shower.
Post # 5
@gonatgo: I think that’s a very generous gift! Most showers I’ve been to have had smaller gifts ($25-$50 per person). And they’re always physical gifts, so I’m not too clear on how this translates to the honeyfund.
Post # 7
I usually give $50 for showers and $100-$150 for the wedding.
Post # 8
Give whatever you like. It is not polite to demand a specific gift only.
Shower gifts tend to be on the cheaper side, so I’d stick with giving less at the shower and more at the wedding.