Post # 1
My sister (MOH) is throwing one of my bridal showers (my side of the family, and friends) the same day as my bachelorette party. It’s just easier since I’ll have friends coming into town for one (or both) of the events. I’ve been to several where this has occurred, so it’s definitely not uncommon.
My sister was able to rent out an enclosed shelter for a day in a local park, since we’re doing a painting party for my bach. party (along with drinks, food, games, etc). My sis and I have chatted, and I told her that the shower could be something like 1-3, and then the bach. party would be from somewhere around 5-whenever (that’s what time I’ve usually had them start if if I’ve planned them). The painting part of the event will be from 6:30-8:30. By having people come at 5, they can mingle and eat before the main event.
The dilemma is with my mom, who thinks that everyone will just stay for the entire day from whenever it starts until whenever we decide to shit the place down. I told her that if I was invited to a party with no break, I’d go crazy. Most people split the day up, so that they can go home and changes/freshen up and then come back. Again, not uncommon. I do think she’s on a different page than what my sister is thinking, but she’s the type who likes to get WAY too involved for her own good – and this may be another prime example.
Thoughts on some timing? I know that most showers are a couple hours, so I would definitly allow for that. No main food would be at, maybe some apps. Actual food will be served at the bachelorette party.
Post # 2
Kacie209: Hmmm… if it were me I would stay, but probably just go enjoy the park on my own during the break. In life, sometimes we have random break time between things and we are adults who can find ways to occupy ourselves. I am an introvert, so I would appreciate the time to recharge inbetween parties! And having them at different times helps make them feel like separate events. So I think your timing sounds great!
Post # 3
My sister is doing the same thing for my parties, since she’s coming from out of town 🙂 My shower is at 11am (I am assuming ending by 1pm) and then my bachelorette party starts at 5pm. Everyone will go home in between. I specifically asked for that because I will need a break from all the people and socializing 🙂 I also thought it would be weird to have them run into each other because not all of my shower guests are invited to the bachelorette.
Post # 4
I know my mom was assuming everyone would just stay since we have this shelter all day/night and if someone left, the place would be unlocked and anyone could come in (say, if we left stuff in there). I told her that I understood that, but still felt it would be a weird transition for people who may not be coming to the shower or the bach. party (some family members not staying for the bach. party mainly) – like it would be rude to kick them out for the next go around.
I’m sure I’m overthinking, but I guess it’s different when you have something at someone’s house and people can come and go, where as this place is unlocked all day for the event. My dad did, however, volunteer to hang out in the shelter if we went the route of having some time in between, so I definitely appreciate that if it happens. I’m sure the wait time in between wouldn’t be long, as things will need to be set up again and no one wants to do that while people start arriving.
Post # 5
So the bachelorette party starts at the same place as the shower? I would probably stay between the two parties unless I was specifically told that the shower ended at 3 and I needed to leave.
This reminds me of a wedding gap… If I live 20-30 minutes away it would be stupid to go home because it would be a waste of gas so what else am I supposed to do for two hours? I think you should be prepared for people to stay for that two hour gap.
I think if you want people to leave you should consider having a larger gap between the two events- maybe four hours?
Post # 6
MrsBeck: Yes, the shower and the bachelorette party are at the same venue. Good points with the gap, as some people are from out of town and the only place they could hang out in between would be my house (which would be fine) or to hang out in the park shelter. Some friends can go to other friends houses, but still.
We did confirm that we can put a lock on the door if we leave and need to come back. That way, no one would have to stay there to watch it in between.
I guess the shower could be 1-3, and then people could come back around 5:30 or so. Our painting party starts at 6:30, so that would give people an hour to eat/hang out before the main event.
Thoughts? I’m seeing my sister this weekend and will get some times planned out better.
Post # 7
I think a break is necessary, especially if you dont have the same guests attending each event. Could get awkward if Great Aunt Sally was invited to the shower and stayed around for the bachelorette party but there wasnt enough seats/food/paint/whatever for her.