Post # 1
My MOH and bridesmaids are throwing me a shower later this year (not getting married until November) and I’ve been consulting on the date. Its traditional here to have a Sunday afternoon shower and I see no problems with that. My MOH is a doctor and does call some weekends so we want to avoid those weekends. My bridesmaid (I only have one) shows her dogs and I want to avoid those weekends as well. We had settled on the last Sunday in September as a good date. My future MIL doesn’t think that’s a good date because the Saturday of that weekend is my fiance’s niece’s second birthday (she’s also the flower girl). And the weekend before is no good because its fiance’s grandmother’s birthday. And we should really avoid the beginning of October because future SIL is having another baby in there somewhere. And future SIL’s mother will probably throw her a shower for her second baby so we have to wait for that date too.
Question is should I avoid the weekend of my flower girl’s birthday. Her birthday is Saturday and we were planning on having the shower on Sunday. I would imagine with enough notice they can have her party (if she has one considering her mother is due to give birth around there) on the Saturday. My fiance said not to worry about future SIL as she probably won’t come to the shower regardless.
This topic was modified 2 years, 5 months ago by LarLa.
Post # 2
- Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest
LarLa: I would ask her if she would be okay with it or whether she was planning a Sunday party. Explain that it’s the only weekend that works for the hosts, but you wanted to check-in with her first…unless the relationship is a bit strained, she’ll probably appreciate the gesture.
Why wouldn’t she be coming to your shower?
Post # 3
LarLa: Have the shower on the date that works for the best for you. A two-year old’s birthday party the day before a shower is no big deal. Have your shower on that Sunday.
Post # 4
i see no problem with that. you can’t please everyone. if this date works for you and the hosts, then you should pick it.
Post # 5
Definitely go ahead and have your shower on the date you selected, and lock it down fast before someone plans a baby shower for the same day. Don’t worry about the flower girl’s bday party; it’s not in direct conflict with your date, and if anyone feels it’s just “too much” for one weekend, they can miss one event or the other. No date is going to be perfect for every adult in your circle, so just do the best you can.
Post # 6
Go ahead and have the shower when you want it. I wouldn’t care if it took place on my birthday- you can’t accommodate everyone.
Post # 7
Like PPs said, there is no 100% perfect date. It’s the day after the nieces birthday, and if you have the date locked, niece’s parents will know if they plan a party, that they should have it on Saturday.
Post # 8
missamysmiles: My relationship with her is fine although I don’t know her well. She’ll be either very pregnant or have a newborn at that point and lives an hour outside the town the shower will be in.
Thank everyone. That was my thought as well.
Post # 9
Having it the same weekend as your flower girls birthday does not seem like an issue to me. I am assuming she is a little girl and her party will be small and during the day, so it does not seem like it would be conflicting to a bridal shower that following day. You will be a busy lady but if it is the best date to pick with everything else going on I say do it!!!!