- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
I’m not very close with my future in-laws (that’s a story for another day) but FI’s relative (who I know more than the others but still do not know well) was kind enough to offer to throw a shower for both of us as a couple. My Maid of Honor has asked to host a small ladies-only shower for family and close friends but her budget is limited.
Normally, I would think the right thing to do would be to invite my Future Mother-In-Law and my Future Sister-In-Law to my MOH’s shower, despite the fact that I rarely talk to them, see them, etc. The thing is, I feel like it would be rude to invite FI’s mom and sister without inviting the relative who is hosting the shower. BUT, if I invite her, I feel like I should invite her adult daughters, his aunts, their daughters, etc. They are all very close with one another and I feel like I can’t invite one without inviting everyone. It would be awkward if they came but the bigger issue is that my Maid/Matron of Honor (nor I) have the budget to throw a shower with that many people. (Inviting the women on his side would add another 12 to 15 guests. Right now I’m expecting 15 of my close friends and family.)
What should I do? Does the shower thrown by his relatives suffice as “their” shower? Should I invite his mom and sister to my MOH’s shower? The hostess of our first shower? All of his female relatives? Nobody? Forgo the MOH’s shower altogether? I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. Any ideas, thoughts, encouraging words are appreciated!