Shower disappointment

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
1584 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Sunshine09:  I think a lot of the reason for this is clothes and bibs and stuff are WAY cheaper than a stroller, bottle warmer etc. You should just be thankful that you don’t have to shell out on clothes and can now spend that money on the big items, because you are right, it is the parents job typically to buy those things.

Post # 4
4513 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We just had a baby shower at my work and EVERYONE gave the mom clothes. Not cheap stuff and most gave A LOT of clothes, but still all clothes. I’m the only person that gave her something from her registry – a car seat base. No, it wasn’t a cute gift, but at least its something they need. I know that some of the people who bought a bunch of outfits could have put that money toward something more practical that her and her husband could really use.

Post # 5
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Sunshine09:  I think I’d rather get the onsies because honestly, it sucks paying money for an item the baby will outgrow so quickly. I have already accepted that I will be buying all the big ticket items myself.

Post # 6
992 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

First of all, I think that all parents should go into their pregnancy expecting to have to purchase 100% of the things baby will need. Any gifts are a bonus, but should never be counted on.

However, if I were you, I’d look into returning any of the outfits I could to the store for store credit or cash and then using it to purchase your “must haves”.

Post # 7
1305 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@Baroness_Meg:  +1  Showers are meant to celebrate with your family and friends and not an expectation of receiving expensive items that are your responsibility.

Post # 8
42166 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I never feel under any obligation to buy parents the basic needs for their babies. That’s their job, not mine.

I bought the basics for my babies and ws thrilled to get the cute outfits, lovely blankets, hand knit and crocheted items  etc at the shower.





Post # 9
2696 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Wow…really? I think it’s rude when parents put things like “stroller, car seat, bassinet, monitor, glider chair, swing, carrier” in their registries and really think that if they don’t have the room in their budget to buy them that an attendee of their shower will. I would go in expecting that as the parent I should/will have to get all of those big ticket items myself. Nobody cares for your child more than you can.

Post # 10
5460 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Oh no, I’m sorry it wasn’t what you were hoping it would be.  This kind of happened to my cousin as well… we had showers within 2 weeks of each other (due dates a month apart) and she knew she was having a girl so all she got were pink frilly dresses.  We didn’t know the gender and ended up getting diapers, towels, a few outfits, activity mat, walker, bath tub, bottle washer, wipes, etc… all very practical gifts.

I agree that you can exchage some of the outfits for store credit to put towards some of the larger items.  Also, see what you can find used in a consignment store.  I wouldn’t buy bedding or the car seat used but things like the swing, bumbo seat, stroller, etc can be thoroughly cleaned and sanitized.

Post # 12
2565 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think clothes/books/toys/small accessories are what should be on a baby registry.  The rest is up to the parents.  One of my classmates had a $700 changing table on their baby registry, um… no.

Post # 14
1231 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

I know I will likely be in the same position after our baby shower, especially since we are having the first girl on both sides so our families are much more excited to buy the frilly girly stuff than the big ticket items that are needed. That being said, I agree with PP that you should see what items can be returned for credit and used towards the items still needed. 

Post # 15
2884 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

things like strollers and gliders are several hundred dollars normally, and far more than the average guest spends. im not even putting the big ticket stuff on my registry. i agree that people often prefer the ‘fun’ stuff over practucal stuff though. and people always get clothes.

what ive put on my registry: ive added things like baby bath towels, play mat, bottles nasal aspirator, baby nail clipping kit, a few toys, bibs, thermometer, moby wrap, bath/room thermometer. the items range between 5 pounds and the most expensive is 35 pounds (er….10 dollars and 45 dollars ish respectively). i know no one is going to be inteersted in spending 200 dollars for a shower gift…so i wont include it

Post # 16
2209 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

A gift is a gift.  No matter what the situation, you can indicate what you might like (with a registry) but no one is obligated to outfit you with everything you need.  They get to give you whatever they want to give you.

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