Shower etiquette

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’d be disappointed. Sure, he’s been married before, but not to you! This is a new beginning and I don’t quite understand why they wouldn’t give you a gift just because they’ve been through this before…

In your situation I’d definitely have a bridal shower (every bride to be is entitled to a shower if it’s what they want) and I would extend the invitation to their side. If they come, then that’s fantastic but if they decline at least you offered them to be involved and I suppose you’d just have to understand that they view this situation different than you do. 


Post # 4
474 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Jenniferashlee:  As far as I know the shower is more for the bride anyway. yes there are a lot of house and home gifts but all ladies attend. i would think invite his side and not be offended if they choose not to show

Post # 5
8475 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Tallulah_:  I agree 100%.

Post # 6
3750 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Wait and see if his family offers to plan a shower for you. Otherwise, whoever offers to plan your shower on your side of the family can add your fiance’s family to the guest list.

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