Post # 1
OK so my aunts want to throw me a shower. That might already be an etiquette breach, but I’m ignoring it. But, they want to have it in the town where I live. My house is too small. My FMIL has a big house that would be perfect. Is that ok, or is that looking like a present grab?
Post # 3
Eh? A present grab? I don’t understand what that means.
I didn’t know it was a breach of etiquette to have your aunts give your shower. For me personally it’s not, and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that or with having it in a location that is big enough for your guests to feel comfortable!
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ
I think it depends on your family. No one in my family cares much about etiquette although some of them know wedding etiquette pretty well.
Post # 5
I am pretty sure it’s the “who” and not the “where” that’s a breach of “proper” etiquette. You should be fine having the shower wherever is convenient.
Post # 6
Don’t worry about it, nobody will think anything negative, its a wedding shower & a party to celebrate you!
Plus, I’ve been to several showers that were held at either the bride’s mothers house or their MIL’s house (in both cases the showers were not hosted by these individuals, simple held at their homes due to space.) Either way I wouldn’t of cared 🙂 It’s a party!
Post # 7
@Bubu82: I have read some posts before where people think when a close relative hosts the shower, it seems like the bride (or close relative) is like “pushing” for gifts. I don’t know. It will just be close friends and family at the shower, so I don’t think it is a big deal.
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Post # 9
I think you are totally fine. I never understood this. Regardless of whether it is your mom, your FMIL, your friend or whatever, a wedding shower kind of IS a gift grab, no? The purpose is to “shower” the bride/couple with gifts.
Post # 10
The location is irrelevant. It’s the event in itself that is the gift-grab.
Post # 11
It’s really perfectly fine wherever it’s most convenient to have it.
Post # 12
My aunts are throwing me a shower, as well. In my family, it’s normal to have showers at people’s houses simply because it’s a free gathering place and it’s easy to make food, decorate, etc. I don’t think it looks like a beg for presents AT ALL! 🙂