Post # 1
Im the Maid/Matron of Honor for an October wedding in Detroit. So I set up the date and time and theme with other 3 BMs. I sent out the invites and a couple days latter i get a mean text from the Bride saying she doesnt like my theme or my invites. The other BMs are backing her because they are her family. her stepmother sends out new invatations and put the other Bridesmaid or Best Man as the contact person for the RSVPs.
Im really hurt. I went thru a lot of trouble. I would talk to her but everyone that knows her says its a waste of time because things are either her way or the highway.
She also turned down all my ideas for her bachlorette party. Once she told me where we are going…I made an invatation and sent her the proof and havnt heard back from her. So Im guessing she didint ike it.
I just cant seem to win.
Post # 3
So why exactly did she ask you to be the Maid/Matron of Honor if she is planning everything? This is not her part of th wedding it is your to plan.
Post # 4
It used to be that the hostess made the decisions and was happy with whatever shower was thrown for them.
More and more, including here on the bee, the brides are making all the decisions and the bridal party are hostesses in name only.
Post # 5
No way ! I have enough stuff to plan and worry about why would I want to plan that too. Girls should be thankful they have friends to go to such great lenghts for them and to put so much effort into parties for them. Honestly, how are girls going to enjoy this time if they are so busy micro managing everything and everyone. All you do is set yourself up to be disappointed.
Post # 6
i get a mean text from the Bride saying she doesnt like my theme or my invites.
what didnt she like/say in her text? i mean i could understand if you have photos of naked guys riding ponies on the invites but i somehow think that isnt the issue. sorry she is being so mean and rude, and people wonder how the word bridezilla gets thrown around
Post # 7
Wow, this bride seems like a real witch. If a bride wants a Maid/Matron of Honor but wants more say in the decisions, then she should have told u to finalize everything with her first before u went ahead with anything. And then to not get back to u when u did ask her to finalize something??? Is this friend always been this witchy?? Are u close to her? I dont know.
TO be treated that bad I might consider getting the hell out of that wedding. But it all depends on u. And dont care for the phrase,its my way or the highway.Well u can get your way but dont act like a a$#. Consider your options, the bride, your relationship with the bride, will they continue to treat u like dirt, and yourself. Then go with whAT u decide.
Hope it works out.
Post # 8
@BridezillasMOH: Sorry that you have to go through this… I would say let the others handle it for now because it sounds like it is not worth the time or effort.