Post # 1
I’m just curious about what folks think about when they purchase (or receive) shower gifts. Is it generally thought of that the shower is the “bride’s day” and gifts are only for the bride? Or is it considered a day that the bride is showered with gifts intended for use by her and her new husband?
I only ask because my shower is arriving soon… I’ve gotten a few advance gifts from guests who were unable to attend, all from the registry. However, my FSIL sent me a package from Bath and Body Works. My FH is really ticked off about it – he can’t understand why his 50 year-old sister (who was married once before) would send a gift clearly just for me. My FMIL told me it’s because FSIL sees a shower as “bride only.”
I always thought of showers are a joint-gift thing, but maybe my perception is off?
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2013 - Franklin Plaza
@emmanneliza: I always thought the same thing. We are not doing a separate registry for the wedding and the bridal shower. My MOH is just giving our (mine and my FI’s) registry info out to the bridal shower party guests.
Post # 4
@emmanneliza: We totally had this discussion at a BM meeting the other day. I included registry info in the bridal shower invitation and several of the BMs were like “But that’s all couple stuff. Shouldn’t she have a personal registry?” I have never in my life heard of this. I always thought you either have a lingerie party (clearly indicated by the invitation/inclusion of the bride’s sizes) or a “household” party, where gifts are purchased from the registry. Although, I wouldn’t be offended if I were the groom & someone sent a personal gift. One of my gifts to the bride is a wedding day emergency kit and I could totally see getting that Philosophy Bride gift set or something similar for someone.
Post # 5
I always think of a shower as benefitting both the bride and groom unless it is specified as a lingerie shower.
Post # 6
I belive the gifts are suppose to be for bride and groom. We actually had a fight while we were registering yesterday because SO wanted to register for an electric shaver…. In the end I let him scan it… but I’m 99% sure that NO ONE will buy that/bring it to the shower.
Post # 7
@julies1949: even that is benefiting both
I always thought it was a benefit for both with the idea of ‘setting up house’