(Closed) Shower Guest List

posted 9 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

If it were me- I probably wouldn’t invite them.  I’ve heard that showers are mainly with close friends and family.  If you don’t feel comfortable inviting them, then don’t.  It’s your shower!

Post # 4
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484 posts
Helper bee

Can you call your FMIL and ask? Maybe this will give you an opportunity to include her in your planning and bring you closer together?

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

I agree with Jeska June20…invite whoever you’d like! We have a huge family and a pretty big guest list, but I think we’re going to have a small shower and not invite everyone who’s invited to the wedding. This might be against the grain of etiquette, but it’s best for us so we’re doing it anyway.

Good luck!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

It sounds like you are right on track.  Showers are supposed to be small.  They are not intended to be a second invitation for everyone going to the wedding.  The etiquette is to invite everyone from the shower to the wedding.  (Not everyone from the wedding to the shower.)  The numbers should be around 40 ppl.

With that said,  I also agree that maybe asking his family, if you care to, is a good idea.  It seems as though some families (maybe regional, maybe cultural) have everyone at their showers.  It sounds like some posters on these threads fear  not being invited to a shower would be insulting.  If that is the case in his family, you could find that out.  But honestly, since you’re the bride, I don’t think they will be as offended, being on the groom’s side.

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