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    piperbenjamin    June 2008   Philly

    my moh is planning my shower with some help (i think) from my mom & bms, and the shower is being thrown at my aunts. who do i give a hostess gift to and at what point of the shower to i give it to them? what is a nice shower hostess gift?

     
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    Soon2BMC       OKC

    I think a hostess gift would be nice, but not always necessary. :)

    I've been to showers where the hostess there was given a nice photo frame, something they collect, something small, but nice for their home.

     
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    tberry      

    I have to admit that I have never been to a bridal or baby shower where the hostess received a gift from the bride.  This may be due in part to the fact that almost all of these showers were a surprise.

    Isntead of a hostess gift you could do a thank you gift.  I would provide one for everyone who planned the shower and for your aunt as well because she is offerign up her home for the occasion (all that cleaning before and after the party deserves something).

     
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    SirenLover84       Washington, DC

    What if instead of buying a gift - you helped out with the party by brining a nice platter of food? Sometimes I think that is more welcome than something they might never use...?

    here is a great list of possible snacks to prepare for the baby shower:

    http://www.parentsconnect.com/questions/baby_shower_snacks.jhtml 

     

     
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    pattyb    7/12/08   Jersey City, NJ

    I am getting my three bridesmaids and the family friend who is hosting the shower bath & body products from my favorite etsy seller, SpaTherapyWorks. Something that's a little different, and from my experience you can never have too much lotion!

     
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    SirenLover84       Washington, DC

    haha i agree - lotion is great - i like trying different ones and seeing which kinds i like anyways. good idea! let us know what happens piperbenjamin.

     
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    SoCalBeachGirl    07/07   Boston, MA

    It sounds like you are trying to be a good traditional bride by not being involved with the shower plans.  I think it's perfectly fine to ask your MOH who is helping with the shower planning so you can make sure you appropriately thank those who've contributed to your shower, whether it's monetary assistance or spending time working on it.

    Since the focus of the shower is you and there's a lot going on, I'd send the gifts afterwards as a thank you.  If you want to make a more public show of gratitude, and are planning on opening up your shower gifts in front of everyone, maybe you can say a few words thanking everyone for coming.  Then you can acknowledge those who did a great job in hosting your shower and give them their gifts before you open yours.

    Members of the bridal party & family spend a lot of time and money when they're in a wedding.  Surely, they'll be spending $$ on your shower, so any token of thanks is always gracious and really appreciated.

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    erika426    4/26/08   New Jersey

    I bought my hostesses - eye masks from banana republic but I love the idea of shower gel and an umbrella,

    "Thank you for the shower, here is for your next shower"

     
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    dreambml    4/12/08   Boston

    My MOH and bridesmaid planned my shower and paid for most of it.  I got them each a Lolita wine glass and a bottle of wine.

     

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