Post # 1
Ok so a friend of mine said she wanted to host a bridal shower for me and she went over who would be hosting/guests at the shower. She said she wanted to do a small shower (probably only about 10 ladies who would essentially be hosting as well). They are all ladies I used to work with in my old job but some are invited to the wedding and others I honestly have barely spoken to since I worked there (not because of anything bad just distance, not being in the same circles, etc.) So I don’t know what to do… we’re on a tight budget and have cut and cut and cut the guest list down to practically just immediate family and EXTREMELY close friends (which still is a lot of people because we both have HUGE immediate families). So my question to the hive is…. Do I need to just bite the bullet and invite them and their spouses to wedding or would it fall into the “co-worker” shower in the etiquette book where it is acceptable not to invite them? I’m leaning toward just inviting them because there’s such a small number but at the same time that would be adding another 14 people to the guest list (once SO’s are added too.) Thanks girls! Can’t wait to hear your thoughts!
Post # 3
hmm this one seems tricky. Does your friend know that you weren’t planning on inviting them? I think that it really just depends on what expectations *they* have as a group. If these girls thing they are invited to the wedding and thus want to plan the shower it would be fairly hurtful for them not to be.
I would probably invite them all or graciously decline the shower b/c it seems awkward.
Post # 4
If the shower invitations have already been sent, I don’t think you are under any obligation to invite them to the wedding. She is responsible for inviting them to the shower, not you.
If the shower invitations have not been sent, then I think it depends on social practice in the company where you used to work. I have worked for several employers where it was routine to invite everyone to showers and only those that the bride had a closer relationship with to the wedding. Sometimes work colleagues just like to celebrate with the bride.
Post # 5
Well it was a small business so really and truly except for the boss, it was just us. The invitations haven’t gone out yet but I’m not sure how to approach it because I would actually love to have them come to wedding but we’re just trying to keep it small and I don’t mean for this to sound mean or hurtful because I really do like all the ladies on the shower hostess/guest list but there would be people I would like to invite before them if we opened up the guest list anymore. Does that make sense? I don’t mean for it to sound snarky. Thanks for the suggestions girls… if anyone has anything else to add I’d REALLY appreciate it! I’m really in a pickle haha