Shower invite list– do I need individual showers or all together?

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

That seems like an average shower list to me. My shower list is over 50 and I wouldn’t consider that to be too big. I’ve been to many showers and they are all usually 25-60 people. Once you get any smaller it just becomes too small to me. Have you included all your FI’s female family members, or do you both just have small families? 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Don’t forget not every single person will be able to make it, I think it’s fine to invite that many people

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

That’s a lot of people, but not a ridiculous number. But I’d probably try to scale down or divide up. I had 2 showers – one had about 18 guests and the other about 12 guests for a total of 30 but they were couples showers, so half the number of couples. Are all these people local to you? We divided the showers by his family in his home town and my fmaily/friends in my hometown. But that means you have to have 2 different people offer to host – did the sister and friend ask to host a shower together or did they separately volunteer to host a shower each?

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

These are all women invited to your wedding, correct?  If the answer is yes, then I think it’s a fine and average shower list.  I would nto divide it into two showers because it would add a lot of extra work and expense on your bridesmaids for no real reason. 

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

The number doesn’t seem excessive to me,but it also depends on where they are planning on holding the shower.

It might be too large a group for someone’s living room,but might work fine for an outdoor shower in the yard or at another venue.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

@FutureMrsT1221:  We are having 2 showers. One in my hometown and one in his. The one in my hometown will include all my girlfriends, so that one is much bigger. Probably around 50 invitees?

I also am assuming there will be a “surprise” shower at work during business hours, but that will be a much smaller event and likely will not include gifts, just a cake and a card.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

@FutureMrsT1221:  The Moms are invited to both showers (and desperately want to come, I think it may be a one-upping kind of thing!). I think my bridesmaids will be too, but I told them to just attend their local shower. Otherwise, there won’t be any overlap.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I think that’s the perfect number to invite- just have one. People don’t make showers a priority like a wedding would be, so your RSVP rate probably won’t be 100%

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@FutureMrsT1221:  If they’re all local I’d just do it all together. Provided that your sister/friend can find a place big enough to host everyone. But I’d not dawdle when opening presents – 30 is a lot to get through! Aw and then move on!

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