Post # 1
My bridesmaids are throwing me a shower at my parents house. It will be the only shower I am having (my fiance’s family keeps saying they are going to do something, but the wedding is fastly approaching and nothing is planned I’m not counting on it.) I want to invite my family to the shower, not his, but two of my bridesmaids are sisters of my fiance…will they be offended if their family isn’t there?
There has been some tension between families. My fiance’s family has said some not so nice things about me and my family that have gotten back to us. It has been a stressful, drama filled wedding planning process.
Please help! I don’t want to create more drama.
Post # 3
My first thought, as I was reading this, was that you should probably just invite his family to keep the peace. As you said, they probably won’t throw one temselves, and things are already tense.
I see your problem, though. If you don’t invite them, you might create drama because of hurt feelings. Obviously they’ll know about it because of the sisters. But if you do invite them, will there be drama at the shower, which you don’t want.
How close are you to the sisters? Can they be "on your side" by running interference if you invite the mom? I’m not sure if the problem is with his mom and dad, or aunts etc. However, for a shower, dad won’t be there. So mom by herself might not wield as much negativity. Could you ask your FI about it? Maybe you can invite his side, but he can speak to his mom about wanting you two to get off on the right foot. Or that YOU really want to include her, but HE wanted to make sure she wants that too. (Basically a "behave yourself conversation in a nice way.)
I guess my bottom line is, if there is anyway to invite his family and have a peaceful shower, I’d do that. It might cause her to back off the negativity. Good luck.
Post # 4
I think this is a very sticky situation and I can deff. relate. I think that you should probably invite the mother because if you don’t she might cont to run her mouth and cause more drama because of feeling left out. Maybe when she does come she will behaave because it will be at your families house with most of your family.