Post # 1
Hi Bees– My mother asked me to give her a list of people to invite to the bridal shower she is planning (I know, family shouldn’t throw showers . . . .). There are several people who I would love be able to join us, but know realistically they won’t be able to travel for the shower and then the wedding. Is it OK to send these people shower invites, or does it just seem gift-grabby? Does it make a difference if they are my family, FI’s family, or friends? I’m thinking I’m better off sending the invites to make them feel included (since I do wish they would come, and I don’t expect gifts, even from people who actually do attend), but I’d like to know if anyone thinks it would be seen as greedy.
Post # 3
I struggled with this too because I didn’t want people to feel left out but theN also thinking I amfishing for gifts. I decided to invite my friends from oot and my moh is going to shoot them a separate note to let them know that I wanted to include them but do not want gifts.
Post # 4
I think it is okay to invite peoplel you know cannot attend. I would love to be invited to something even if I knew I could not attend. I do not see it as gift-grabby, people are not obligated to get a gift.
Post # 5
I think it’s nice to let people know they are welcome. Who knows — maybe they will surprise you and attend both. You can’t go wrong including people, but you can hurt feelings by excluding people. That’s my take, anyway.
Post # 6
Send them one anyways! Who knows if theywill be able to come or not
Post # 7
Thanks, Ladies! I think I’ll err on the side of inclusiveness.