(Closed) Shower no gifts vs. Bachelorette party?

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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381 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think it completely appropriate to write no gifts, however the purpose of a shower IS to shower the bride with gifts. So I think calling it something else would be a better way to signal to guests that it is just a fun way to gather pre-wedding.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

A shower is by definition a gift giving occasion. If you want to have a gathering I would not call it a shower but maybe a bridal luncheon.

It is also against etiquette to mention anything about gifts on the invite, even to say no gifts. It can give the impression that gifts were otherwise required. And it rejects peoples gifts before they have been received. You should accept all gifts graciously (which I am sure you will).

No gifts also rarely works. Some people will follow the no gift request and others will not. Then those that followed the request feel bad that others did bring a gift.

So yeah, all that to say no to a shower, but yes to bridal luncheon, or tea.

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