Post # 1
Who all do I invite to the different showers and parties leading up to the wedding? Do you bees usually have the same guest list for all of them? I understand that some will be work-related, but for the ones that your friends throw for you, do you always invite your wedding party and closest friends? Also, are they expected to get you a gift for each one?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t invite the same set of people to each of the parties. If you are having multiple showers, invite the people from those circles. The only people I would invite to all are my BM’s (and expressly tell them, no gifts).
As a BM’s in a wedding where there were TONS of showers – please also tell them that they don’t have to attend. I was going to a shower or party every other weekend for a good 2 months up to the wedding. Come wedding time, I was ready for the whole thing to be OVER. All the BM’s still chuckle about how many parties there were – and FI is insistent that we will not be doing the same thing (siting that wedding as an example).
You know your friends best – I suppose the rule to keep in mind is that they all have their own lives going on too. 🙂
Post # 4
Only invite each girl to ONE shower (except the bridesmaids and moms). If you invite them to more than one shower they might think they have to get a gift for each one which they dont. They really showld one get you one gift no matter how many showers you have. I had one list for my shower and a different list for my bachelorette party since my shower was a lot of family. If you do a work related shower Id keep it to work friends only. Also, make sure everyone who is invited to your showers are invited to the wedding. Its not correct etiquette wise to invite someone to a shower and not to your wedding (it looks like you are just asking for gifts). Hope this helps!