- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
In my area its pretty normal for family to plan showers, and my bridal party are mostly all OOT or um-employed, so its not that part I am worried about. My mom offered 6 months ago to plan one, and all she ever says is “I should get on that huh?” and that she is just SO busy. I dont really want to be “involved” but I dont want to feel like its a burden when I didnt ask for one. I asked her if she rather someone else does it and she got MAD.
An example of why I get worried is; I had a baby shower planned by her 2 years ago, and it was so last minute that she used her left over birthday cake from the week before, no games because she doesnt like them, and I had to call my FMIL to bring some aps because I saw what my mom had and it was slim. Ended up being only 5 people showed because she waited too long to invite anyone.
Now my FMIL’s friends all decided to plan a shower for me, and it wasnt really a request, as they sent me the rough draft of the invite they plan on sending out. Its going to be a girls brunch afternoon out. They are all so increadbly sweet, and even though I have told them it was too much they insist.
My issue is, should I let both sides, and have two? They are in completely different towns, but only about a 30 min drive. Or should I explain nicely to my mom that FILs are putting one on, and she doesnt have to if she is too busy? I know she really doesnt enjoy these types of things, but FMIL and I do, so logically I wish it were simple enough to just have the one. (Nice ways to tell her this happily appreciated)
I just hate it. I have always been an open book, but she is the QUEEN of control, and gets so jealous of my FILs about certain stuff. Its making this whole planning process hard!