Shower Question

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’ve noticed a lot of older ladies (e.g. aunts) tend to comment on photos with “How happy you look”-type comments a lot and I personally don’t think they feel left out. I think it’s just a generational thing where they feel the need to comment, whereas younger folks *tend* to just hit “like”. So you would know your relatives better than me, but in my experience, mine don’t mean anything by it and it’s not a loaded comment.

I don’t think you should throw yourself a shower out of obligation to your relatives. If they wanted to attend, I’m sure they would ask if you are having one.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@mrs_pudding_pop:  I think I would wait and see if they ask, or put your FB on lockdown so people can’t post about it. Can someone in your FI’s immediate family host (e.g. his mom, sibling, etc.)? I had a friend whose family threw her a shower in her hometown and her MIL ended up hosting her own for her in MIL’s hometown and invited the FI’s relatives. It’s probably better doing it this way than hosting your own and inviting them. It can risk looking like a gift grab and it can be awkward for you if you don’t know anyone else there (or know them that well). I know my friend felt really awkward at the FI family-only shower and was happy I showed up (as the only non-relative).

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If they feel left out, one of them could host a shower.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

invite them to your home state shower.  if the think the travel is too far, maybe they will host their own in their state for you.

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