Post # 1
Hey Ladies – so my showers are May 2nd and May 15th and my wedding is June 12th. I didn’t give this a thought until right now when I realized this might actually create an awkward situation for people who feel like they need to buy both a shower AND wedding gift. I’m not sure why my showers weren’t scheduled for March or April as I”m obviously not involved with the planning and now I’m worried..
What do you all think will happen? Will people feel like they have to buy us both a shower and wedding gift? Anyone else have showers so close to the wedding and can chime in on what happened?
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I don’t think it’s a big deal – I am going to a shower this weekend for a wedding that’s on April 24th! It’s not too close.
Post # 4
I’m having a shower the weekend before my wedding weekend (It is a lingerie shower, but still). I never worried about it, and I think it will be just fine. Those who know you well won’t mind buying you a few gifts. One will probably be smaller than the other, but I would expect that and understand if that was the case.
Post # 5
@amanda, but are you buying a shower AND a wedding gift? How are you handling it?
Post # 6
My shower is a month from our wedding, so I’m in the same kind of situation.
Shower vs. wedding gift tends to be a regional thing. In my area, people usually buy a gift for the shower, and give money for the wedding. I don’t think it’s going to make for any awkwardness. People will make up their minds if they want to get you a shower gift, a wedding gift/money or both… regardless of how close together the events are.
Personally, I’ve never even been to a bridal shower, but if I was invited to one, I’d buy a gift, and then bring money to the wedding. That’s just what people around here typically do, although it’s different everywhere you go 🙂
Post # 7
I’m having a shower the Sunday before my Saturday wedding. I’m getting married in my hometown, and currently live really far away from pretty much everyone I’m inviting to the wedding, so its the only way I could HAVE a shower.
I don’t really know whats going to happen, but I imagine some people will buy gifts for both, but most will just buy one gift. This is fine by me. In your situation, your showers are further out, so I think there will be more people who buy it for both.
What is the “theme” of your showers? If its a personal shower where people are supposed to bring lingerie or other items like that, then I bet they’ll all bring a gift to both.
Post # 8
I don’t think it’s too close to the wedding. I’m having two showers, one in my FI’s hometown about a month before the wedding and one in my hometown a week before the wedding. It was the only way we could make it work, since I no longer live in the town where the rest of my family lives, but I don’t think it really matters. It’s just going to be a crazy week of wedding-related activities. There’s a month between your second shower and your wedding, which seems like a reasonable amount of time to me.
Post # 9
@Blueshoes – You have a good point, people will most likely decide if they want to do both regardless of how close the events are. But I still sort of feel like it’s a lot all at once for people who would normally buy 2 gifts, you know?
@farmersdaughter – the first shower is our PA shower which will be my family and our friends, the 2nd shower is a MI shower which will be much smaller with only a few of FI’s family and friends. There isn’t a particular theme to either, just normal wedding showers.
Post # 10
I had a shower that was the weekend before the wedding, and I don’t think that it was a big deal. Granted it was a surprise shower, but the people who came to the shower gave me gifts at the wedding too.
Post # 11
I think my shower will be 2 weeks before my wedding (if not the week before). If it ends up being the week before, then Future Mother-In-Law will be able to attend.
Post # 12
So I know you posted this a while ago, but my cousin is planning my shower for the day before my wedding! I’m not worried about it though – my wedding is long distance from me and all of my friends (only my family is close by) so having it the day before the wedding allows my friends and FI’s family to attend too since they will already be in town for the wedding the next day!
It will just leave me with A LOT of thank you notes to crank out after we get back from the honeymoon! Lol!