Post # 1
Hi Bees! I’m having my shower on Sunday, and it’s being co-hosted by my mother and FMIL (I’m not having bridesmaids). Am I supposed to give them a hostess gift at the shower? Or afterwards as a thank you? What’s an appropriate type of gift for such an occasion?
Also, definitely feeling some nerves about the shower. There will be around 30 women there, and like many brides, I’m nervous about being the center of attention. Any tips or strategies the already-showered-bees would be willing to share? I’m mostly excited, extremely humbled and grateful – but the nerves are still popping up! Thanks, bees!
Post # 3
We’re giving our hostess gifts after the shower, just because we haven’t gotten our shit together. For me, it was really good to have my fiance there with me. And the shower was most just a regular barbeque party with brief opening of presents at the end. The present part was what I was dreading and it went better than I expected. My fiance and I traded opening back and forth, so we got through everything failry quickly. We did not stop for pictures of each or for hugging between each present. Just a quick – “Oh, wow, this is great – we’ll totally use this – Thanks! Then move on to the next. We did not do the ribbon thing. We did have my step mom taking notes. Like I said, not nearly as bad as I thought. It also helped that this was definitely not the focus of the evening. It was really just more like a fmaily get together where we happened to open some presents. It was perfect.