(Closed) Shower was emotionally/physically tiring! Will wedding day be worse?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I was soooo exhausted after my shower, I remember thinking “wtf I was just sitting down opening presents”. I was not tired at all during our wedding, I don’t know what it was, maybe just the emotional high of getting married but it was not the same feeling at all. It did go by in a flash, I’m not sure theres much you can do about that. Just make sure to hold your FI and try to soak it all in at least twice. I had to chase my DH down more than once because we were schmoozing guests separately.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Yup.  This:

It was great and I’m so thankful. But, when I got home last night to reflect on it, it was a whirlwind of activity and I felt like I didn’t even get to talk to people much – just saying hello to everyone, then hours of [replace opening gifts with dancing], a few minutes to eat, then I tried to stop at each table and say hi to everyone again and chat. But before I knew it, it was over and many people had left without saying goodbye. I was soooo tired when we got home.”

pretty much sums up my wedding day.  It will be over before you know it.  Enjoy every minute!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I felt the exact same after my engagement BBQ on the 16th.  It went by so quickly.  I was even a bit depressed that it ended.  All I could think was “holy shit, imagine my wedding day!”.  It’s a lot to take in.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yes, your wedding day will be physically and emotionally exhausting – way more so than just a shower!

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper

I know how that feels (your post-shower feeling) – but, quite frankly – I didn’t give myself those expectations to myself on my wedding day.

I didn’t feel the need to have an indepth conversation with everyone.

I made a point to say hello to everyone and thank them for coming – and, anything after that – was just icing on the cake to me.

My #1 concern was enjoying the day with my new husband. No one else mattered.

I planned my wedding so that my guests would have a great time, be entertained, have plenty of food and drink.

Obviously, they weren’t ignored – but, it wasn’t the same pressure as I’ve felt in other parties that I’ve thrown (a big 30th b’day bash felt that way).

The other thing to keep in mind – people aren’t expecting to have a long conversation with you. Think about weddings you’ve attended. Personally, I’m happy if I can have a short, genuine conversation with the couple. Guest have different expectations at weddings than showers, IMO.

The day DOES go by quickly and you will always want to spend more time with people… but, if you have realistic expectations about it (meaning – you aren’t going to have a long chat with everyone at the wedding) – then you’ll be ok. Hopefully that will take some of the pressure off.

How big was your shower and how big is your wedding?

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Our ceremony and reception were in the evening so we used the whole day for taking the time to get ready and getting all the pictures in. It did move pretty quickly once the ceremony started and before I knew it it was close to midnight. It wasn’t until the party was winding down that I really felt exhausted and was antsy to get back to the hotel and relax.

Like everyone else says, relax, take it all in, and enjoy your day!!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

A wedding is full of moments put there specifically to connect with people and such. Be sure to include some kind of receiving line or time to visit tables. We took our photos before the wedding, so we had the whole cocktail hour to greet people, thank them, and soak in the love – it was my favorite part of the wedding day.

As far as being tired – you’ll probably be exhausted after the wedding, but it didn’t hit us until we were on our honeymoon – which is the perfect time to rest up and relax together. Honestly, the joy, love, adrenaline from the wedding day gave me superhero strength or something – I lasted all day (in 4″ heels!) and my husband had to drag me off the dance floor when it was all over.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Actually, I am the same way–I was a wreck after the shower. But the wedding, I was happy like a dog rolling in [poo]. The guest list was my and DH’s friends (as opposed to my mom and MIL’s friends), I didn’t have to sit there and have people stare at me while I repeated “Wonderful, THANK you!” >800 times, and the big one–DH was there to deflect the attention. If you are introverted like me, it is a HUGE help when there is someone else absorbing the spotlight.

And, there’s actually LESS spotlight at the wedding. People are doing their own thing, chatting/dancing/drinking amongst themselves, WAY more so than in a shower situation. Don’t worry!

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