shower, with some guests not invited to wedding :/

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
266 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Go with the flow. The girls at work are throwing me a shower and they know I can’t invite anyone from work to the wedding due to space,  so yeah

Post # 4
795 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I am also having a small intimate ceremony. I’ve been open and honest about that fact with everyone. I work with over a 100+ people and I am being thrown two showers at work. One is by the ladies in my department (they know they aren’t invited, but want to celebrate with me) and the hospitality committee is also throwing me one. I don’t think its a breech of etiquette because they are choosing to throw a shower for you because they care. They know your wedding is small, but they still want you to celebrate with you in some way. 

Post # 5
42082 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Despite what you may read here on WeddingBee, it is common for groups of friends, neighbours, future relatives, work colleagues, club members and church members to host a shower for the bride and other members of the same group.

You are not the one hosting or issuing the invitations, so sit back, enjoy and be grateful.


Post # 6
1103 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

It’s their choice! We’ve had showers at work for people, we knew we weren’t invited to the wedding. I wouldn’t worry about it, they want to do it for you. 

Post # 7
17 posts

If you’re really uncomfortable with the idea of these 2 extra showers, then have a gentle heart-to-heart with your FMIL and the ladies in the neighbourhood.  But truly, you should just go with the flow; it’s as much for them as it is for you.  They just want to do something nice for you and celebrate for you, fully knowing that not all of them will be invited.  I totally hear that you’re worried about this being tacky, but really think you have no reason to worry.  After all, you’ve hd no part in planning them (I’m assuming there are no registries for these 2 showers.) Moreover, it seems this is coming from a really genuine place. They probably wouldn’t offer if you weren’t good to them, so relax and enjoy.Smile

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