Post # 1
help me out, someone!
here’s the sitch: i don’t have many friends and my family is scattered. i grew up and moved from place a about 2 years ago, have lived in place b since then, and our wedding will be held in place c. i have family in a and b, and the groom’s family all lives in place c.
i have a question about the shower and bachelorette party. where and when should these be held? and as far as the shower, should invites be sent to those who obviously won’t be able to make it (like my mom, who lives 2000 miles away, or grandmother who lives about the same distance in the other direction)?
do i have to forego both of these things because of geography? what do you think?
Post # 3
My mom and close friends live almost 2000 miles away since I moved back to California.
My MOH decided to hold and throw both the shower and the bachelorette party in Seattle (my place "A") in March and I’ll have another shower with my Dad’s family that lives here in California closer to May.
Can you have more than one? And in different locations?
Post # 4
I agree with MissMandy. Regarding your bridal shower you can have more than one. Maybe your mother can throw you and invite all your close family and friends that live in place A. Than maybe someone close to you in place B can throw you one so the others can be apart of it. My FI cousin had two showers. One in her hometown and one where her husband side of the family lives.
As for your bachelorette pary maybe you can have it the weekend of your shower. It seems like your wedding most of the people will be OOT guest, so it can be done, most likely if it’s a three day weekend wedding. Well hope that helps.
Post # 5
since my family and friends are all over this planet and b/c i have all the household shiot i could ever ask for, i am foregoing the bridal shower…
i am having 2 bachelorette parties though -one in miami for all my east coast friends and fam and one in san diego for the left coasters
Post # 6
Our guests are all over the place too. My mom and FMIL threw a shower in location A, where we’re getting married, which was mostly my mom’s friends from work and the neighborhood. My mom only invited my aunt and grandma from faraway locations. However, my FMIL invited every female on the groom’s side of the invite list, and we got gifts from quite a few of them. I think it did seem a little like gift-grubbing though.
I probably won’t have another shower, and I think I’m going to do my bachelorette outing the Thursday before the wedding. It won’t be anything too wild, so it won’t require much recovery. 🙂
Post # 7
Because of the distance between a lot of the people, incuding my wedding party my bachlorette party is going to be the same night as the rehersal dinner, which is also combined with the bachelor party. (we’re not big intot he party hard in the city and spend a million dollaers doing it thing)
As for showers, my family is so so big and scattered across tri state area – if somoene throws me one, great 🙂 And if not, no skin off my back.
I know my FMIL is throwing me one with my FSIL and that will include my moms side of the family and my friends – but I have 3 more sides of the family. I assume they will invite those with in a reasonable distance to them and where they are holding the shower should their be one.
I think if you know they won’t come and they are computer savvy just e-mail invite.
Post # 8
i’m not having a shower. i just don’t see more reason for my friends and family to spend more money on me and i sure don’t want to spend money on throwing one myself.
i’m having 2 bachelorette parties too. one for my bms and another one for some other friends.