- 4 years ago
I am the unofficial MOH for my best friend in her upcoming May Wedding. It’s been great so far! But I’m having trouble with a few things. I write out too much detail most of the time, so if you can’t bear paragraphs you can skip to the end lol.
BFF hates weddings, and that didn’t really change for her own. So she’s been dragging on a lot of things planning wise. Thankfully she has a one in million fiance who is very opinionated about the wedding, so between that and my constant prodding, most is taken care of. However she is dragging a bit on sending me her shower and bachelorette party invite list, available weekends etc. I work for our cities baseball team, so my weekends in the summer are spotty and I needed to plan yesterday for these things.
Also, a bulk of people I will be inviting I don’t know, they’re friends she met through her FI. Which worries me about some logistics. The shower is at my house, which is going to be a 30 minute drive roughly for a lot of people on her FI side, some are already complaining(even though its longer for BFF’s family/other friends). I also am unsure of what level of persistence I have in getting the girls together for the bachelorette party. I don’t know them and don’t want to badger and be rude, you know?
BFF is also getting planning help from her FMIL and step mom. Both which want me to help break down and set up the recep and ceremony sites. Which honestly I just can’t do with how much else BFF needs the same day. She’s having a hard time telling them no though, her mother died a long time ago and she feels guilty about upsetting them since they’re just trying to be there for her since she doesn’t have her mom with her.
Also, could some of the more experienced bees help out on some bachelorette protocol? I’d hate to have my friend have to pay her way for her own party. (Drinks, dinner, misc). I already am putting out quite a bit of cash for the shower, my dress, her shower gift and wedding gift, my outfit, hair, prep and my end of the bachelorette party(a spa outing) and honestly its really tapping me. I’d pay for the moon if I could, but I’m not made of money. And I could never ever ask other people to pay, especially those I don’t know! But I’m running out of budget fast!
So if you didn’t want to read the long version,
A) What’s a good way to tell BFF for the final time I need her party guest lists ASAP?
B) How can I get people who I have never met and don’t know to my house with reassurance travel isn’t that bad?
C) How to handle the case of too many moms?
D) Any financial suggestions for my strapped budget?
Thank you bees!